A Post For Thought

Saw this little poster on Facebook and thought I would expound on it some. Hope you give it some thought too. I will have to type out what the poster said because it gives me an error when I try to open it in this post.I copied it and pasted it here, but I don’t know how long it will continue to show up, that is why I am also typing it here. It makes a whole lot os sense when you really stop and think about it.

The poster is by The Mind’s Consciousness. It goes on to say:

“Imagine this: If you had $86,400 in your account and someone stole $10 from you, would you be upset and throw all of the remaining $86,390 away in hopes of getting back at the person who took your $10? Or move on and live? Right, move on and live. See, we all have 86,400 seconds each day. Don’t let someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the remaining 86,390. Don’t sweat the small stuff, Life is bigger than that.”

It also says to type yes if you agree, but that is only effective if you are doing it in Facebook. It won’t work here, unfortunately.

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When you think about it this way, it doesn’t make sense for us to let what another person says or does ruin our day. Of course that isn’t the case if the other person physically hurts you, it’s only talking about their negative actions. It’s like the little saying that most parents teach their kids growing up, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never harm me.” The words may make us feel bad, but it is only because we let them. If we just turn and walk away while shrugging the words away, then they won’t upset us.

Hope you have or have had a great day today. I’m going to try to remember this analogy of the seconds in everybody’s day and not let others negativity upset me. I know I won’t always succeed, but at least I will be better off for trying. Why don’t you try it too?

Some Words For Thought

I came across this on my Facebook when I was reading a post by Kelly Bagnasco. When you stop and think about it, it is so true. If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Treat the Root, Not the Symptom

Are you treating the outside but missing the root cause, a negative mind-set toward yourself? Your thinking in some area may be infected. Continuously have positive thoughts playing in your mind. When you play thoughts like that, the toxins can’t stay. Your mind is being renewed.

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Our attitude that we start the day out with determines how we feel during the day, as well as how we affect others and rub off on them. That little saying “Brighten the corner where you are.” is so true. Just a little light can brighten a dark room. If you don’t believe it, just try plugging in a little night light. Granted the light isn’t light enough to read by, or do anything delicate by, but it does allow you to see what is in the room.

When you are thinking happy and upbeat thoughts, it’s impossible to not feel good about yourself and the day, The same goes for when you are helping others. When you are helping others in need, no matter how big or how small the need, it’s not possible to feel bad when you see the look of happiness on the person’s face. When they thank you and possibly hug you, you have to feel a certain amount of satisfaction about what you did.

For example: Last year, around October, I came up with the idea to crochet scarves for homeless people. I hadn’t crocheted in a long time, and couldn’t even remember how to cast on the yarn to start the first scarf. with starting so late, I was only able to crochet 7 scarves by December. My friend and I went downtown one evening to hand out the 7 scarves that I had finished. I figured that handing out the 7 was better than not handing out any. I couldn’t actually go to the area where the homeless people were gathered because some of them were smoking. I am asthmatic, and the cigarette smoke would make me have an asthma attack and have to be rushed to the hospital. Needless to say, I stayed a safe distance away from them.

After my friend had handed out all 7 of the scarves, he came back and told me that the few people that had received the scarves cried when they got them. He also told me that we should crochet more scarves for this next year. I agreed. So I started out the new year trying to cut my time down from around 10 days to do a scarf, to 5 days, if at all possible. I didn’t have very much luck, and in March I also started having a lot of medical issues. I was being rushed to the ER every month. I didn’t get back on my feet so to speak until some time in June.

In June, I also had to go to my storage unit to get my big suitcases out, as I was leaving the 5th of July to go help my sister, by taking care of my Mom while she and her husband went on a trip. While I was at the storage unit, I decided to bring home a small table, on rollers, that I had made while I was in college. At first, I just used it for miscellaneous things. One night when I was using it, I also used it while crocheting a scarf. I found that it made the whole process go quite a bit smoother than what it had been being done. Long story short, I have got the process down to where I can complete a scarf in 3 days now.

I am glad to report that I have 19 scarves crocheted at the current time, and am working on the 20th one. I look forward to working on the scarves everyday. It is not possible to tell you how good I feel doing this project. I am so committed to this that I have made a website just to report about the crocheted scarves for the homeless. The website is mammahen.org.

You are welcome to visit the site anytime you want. I am trying to recruit other people to help with crocheting the scarves, and have even asked that anybody that knows how to crochet hats will also volunteer to crochet some for the project. There is a contact page on the website where you may find out any and all the information necessary to help with the project. I make pictures of each scarf as I complete them and post them on the website. As soon as I can save up the money, I plan on making the website a Not For Profit website. There will be a donation button on the website for anybody that wishes to donate to the project. I just hope that if anybody wants to help raise the money towards the Not For Profit certificate, they will mark it on the donation. If there is no marking on a donation, then the donation will be used for yarn to crochet more scarves.

Even though I have numerous medical problems, my doing this project makes me happy everyday. I actually look forward to the time I spend on my crocheting the scarves. The main point that I wanted to make is, like I said earlier in the post, it is not possible to feel bad when you are doing something to help someone else.

 

Technology Is Wonderful as witnessed by me

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about the advances in technology, that I am aware of, in my lifetime, and how they have helped me. Having been born in the early 1950s, I have experienced many of the changes first hand. I will obtain as many pictures as possible from Google on the internet to show the items that I am talking about.

In the 1950s there was no such thing as “color TV” and there were only 3 channels in addition to PBS. The televisions were console models and had tubes in them that would burn out and have to be replaced.

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Music was recorded on vinyl discs and played on phonographs. Many times the phonographs were also in a cabinet that resembled a low table and it also had a radio in it. There are some sample pictures below of both the records and the cabinets they phonographs were in.

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Home movies were on reels and had to be shown on machines that had attachments for the reels. It was also necessary to use a big screen to show them on.

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Regular pictures were taken on cameras that needed flash bulbs to get good pictures, and the film came in rolls that had to be threaded into the camera. The camera had to be wound after each picture. They used flash bulbs that had to be thrown away after just one use. Then came cameras that used film cartridges that did not have to be wound up after each picture and flash cubes that could be used to take four pictures before the cube had to be thrown away. After that came cameras that were automatic wind and flash, but you still had to use film cartridges. Finally came digital cameras with built in light sensors and cell phones that could also take and store pictures. The digital cameras and cell phones use SD cards for storage of the pictures.

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When I was growing up, we had a wringer washer to wash our clothes. It did not automatically cycle through a rinse cycle and then spin the clothes so they could be put in a dryer. The machine had to be emptied each time a different cycle was necessary, and that meant that all of the clothes had to be put through the wringer, one by one, to get the excess water out of them. We didn’t have automatic dryers, and the apartment that we lived in had pulley clothes lines, to hang the clothes on to dry outside. I found some internet pictures that are shown below.

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There was no such thing as a cell phone when I was growing up. All phones were wired into the wall, and most people even had what was called a “Party Line”, which meant anywhere from three to five different households had the same phone number. If there was someone else on the line and you needed to make an important call, you had to break in on the conversation and ask if they would mind hanging up the phone so that you could make the phone call. You were at the other person’s mercy as to whether or not they would end their call and let you use the phone. It was possible to have a private line, but they cost extra. You had to dial the number using a round dial with holes in it and the numbers were on the solid base of the phone. You would put your finger into whichever hole had the number you needed under it and then turn the dial clockwise until you hit the little stop piece.

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Touch tone phones did not come until after I was a teenager.

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Cell phones didn’t come until after I was an adult. There are flip phones too.

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For people in manual wheel chairs, the invention of power wheel chairs was about the best invention in their lives. The accessibility, to most people with insurance, made it possible for people that could not afford them on their own to be able to own a power chair. It was almost unbelievable to people with any type of paralysis. They were able to get around with a power chair, when they could not do so with a manual chair, unless someone was willing to push them. Even quadriplegics were able to get around, with the aid of a blow tube to control the chair.

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These are all really great inventions, but computers have to be the biggest change in all of the wonderful changes that I have seen and had a chance to use and own. To think that back in 1970, when I was in college for computer programming, I had to actually punch cards, stack them, and then verify them before I could run them to see if my program would work. First picture is of a man punching the cards. Second picture shows cards in the keypunch machine. Third picture shows stacking cards to put them in the machine that would verify them, the verifying machine is in the fourth picture.

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There was no such thing as a motherboard. There were physical boards, that had to be wired by hand, one wire at a time. These boards are what told the computer what to do. They were the fore runners to plug in modules, since there were no such things as modules

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Only businesses and very rich people had computers. The computer and all of its’ components could take up any where from one room to whole buildings. There were raised floors, so that cooling equipment could be installed under them. The temperature had to be kept between 68 and 72 degrees Fahrenheit in the rooms where the massive computers were set up.

Businesses had to be connected to their main computers by modems with internal dial-up routers.

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The businesses had actual floppy discs that were 8 inches square, or 5 and 1/4 inches square. The users had to be careful not to bend them, or the information that they contained would be corrupted. Then came the 3 and 1/2 inch square floppy discs that were actually hard plastic.All three sizes and types were called floppy discs though, because they had a very thin floppy disc inside, that contained whatever information that you entered into the computer.

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These floppy discs were the first type of storage, and later were replaced by hard drives. The hard drives were metal and had metal discs called platters inside of them. These platters spun around and as the data was entered into the computer, it was recorded on these platters. The first hard drives could only hold mega bytes and/or kilo bytes of data. It took a few years before the first Gigabyte storage capable hard drives were developed. My first Gigabyte hard drive was capable of storing 12 Gigabytes of data. When I had that installed into my computer, I thought it would last me for the rest of my life. I have since had hard drives capable of holding up to over 500 Gigabytes of data.

After the hard drives came external hard drives that could be carried and hooked up to computers in other places via a USB cable. These too were not capable of high volumes of data at first. Now internal hard drives and external hard drives are capable of holding Terabytes of data, and are also available in Solid State Drive form. A Solid State Drive is one that has no internal parts that move. Below are three hard drives. The one on the left is an internal hard drive, the one in the middle is a laptop hard drive, and the one on the left is a solid state hard drive. The solid state hard drive is the same size as the laptop hard drive is. Since the solid state hard drive has no moving parts, it will last indefinitely.

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Below is a comparison of a regular hard drive and a solid state drive.

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.The actual computer was in a very large metal case with the workings inside of it. These were called desk top computers, and came in various sizes. With the desktop computer it was necessary to use a separate monitor, keyboard and mouse. Some of the computers were able to be put flat and the monitor was placed on top of it, but most of them stood beside the monitor. See pictures below.

The monitors of the older computers used cathode ray tube (CRT) technology, and were separate from the computer. These first monitors were very bulky and heavy. They didn’t get moved very much. The CRT monitors were deep from front to back.

The next type of screen to come on board was the liquid crystal display (LCD). This type of screen had a sharper picture than the CRT, and was not as big and bulky. It was no where near as deep from front to back as the CRT, and was much easier to move from one area to another.

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After the LCD type of screen came the light emitting diode (LED) type of screen. These had an even sharper screen. They were very skinny from front to back when compared to the CRT, and even a bit smaller from front to back than the LCD screens were. Both the LCD and the LED screens were available in many different dimensions when compared the the CRT screens.

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After the LED screen cam the plasma display screen, and was the most vibrant of all of the screens before it. It was available in even bigger sizes, while still being very sleek. These screens even had High Definition (HD) capabilities.

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The most modern screens have touch screen technology built into them, as shown below.

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The computers continued to be improved and made smaller and easier to be carried around. These came to be known as Laptop computers, and even smaller ones are called tablets. The tablets are more for watching movies ans playing games though, than for actually being used as computers. They usually didn’t have keyboards with them and therefore were not practical for business use. Now, however there are tablets that have magnetic keyboards that may be connected to them, so they may be used as regular laptops.A regular laptop is shown on the left, and a tablet with a magnetic keyboard is shown on the right.

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The first computer that I had was one that friends gave to me. It was a standup desktop with a CRT screen, keyboard and regular mouse. I later had a computer built to my specifications that also had a CRT, but it was a 17 inch screen. I had a keyboard and a regular mouse.

Today my mouse is an optical mouse. Even though I have a laptop that has a mouse pad and a keyboard contained in it, I like using an external mouse and an external keyboard. I am a senior citizen, and it is just easier for me to use the external devices.

The portability of a laptop is great. When I take the laptop anyplace, all I take is the external mouse, and use the keyboard that is made into the laptop.

When I think of all the technological changes that have happened in my lifetime, I am all but overwhelmed. It is simply amazing to see how far technology has come. Children of today, and even many adults will never know what having vinyl records playing on a record player was like. Nor will they know what a hardwired house phone ( more commonly called a land line) was like. They will never have known black and white TV, VHS movies, cassette tapes and eight tracks, cameras with flash bulbs and film that had to be wound after each picture. With being able to make videos on cell phones, they won’t know what home movies and home movie projectors are all about. By the same token they will not know what having negatives to pictures is all about since they can take and store pictures on their cell phones and upload them to the cloud. With mp3 players they don’t have to have walk men for the CD, and DVDs have evolved to Blue Ray and now even 4k, I think they are called. The x-box is going away to a degree, since most games can now be purchased and played on PCs and/or laptops.

Even though some of the advances are hard to get used to at first, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Technology is wonderful, and change will never stop happening. When you stop wanting to learn new things, you stop living to a degree. I am very thankful for the changes that I have come to depend on each and every day. There is no way that I can single out how they have helped me and which one is better than another. But if I had to pick just one, I would have to pick the phone first. And if by chance I could pick two things, I would have to pick the laptop next.

Which Has A Greater Impact – Those People Known Short or Long Time?

The article below the first divider line, and the picture with the message in it, were on Facebook a while back. I felt that the message was a very important one, and one that needed to be expounded upon. What I wrote is below the divider line.

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There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will. When other people treat you poorly, walk away, smile, and keep being YOU. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.

Impact From Short relationships vs Impact From Long relationships

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Long time friends are friends that have been with you for many years, and are always there for you. Like I have heard people say, “A Good Friend will visit you in jail, but a Best Friend will stay with you in jail.”

Some friends have been with you ever since you can remember what friends were all about. They build you up, and you learn from them constantly. They also let you know when you are doing things that are not so nice. Even though what they tell you may hurt, you listen to them, because you know that they are telling you whatever it is for your own good and with love in their hearts. They only want what is best for you. You know without a shadow of a doubt that they were put in your life for a reason. The love that you have between you is like the love I wrote about in the poem below.

THE  GROWING  LOVE

There is a special kind of love.

You find it among close friends.

This is called a growing love,

The kind that never ends.

Sometimes you think it’s gone away.

But it’s only taking a rest.

This love is here to stay.

It will out stand every test.

It starts out very small,

Like the little buds in spring.

But then it covers all,

Like a Mama bird and her babies with her wings.

With Love,

Bonnie Jean

Here is a poem about friends and loved ones that I wrote many years ago.

FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES

Friends are people who, to you, are near;

Loved ones are people who, to you, are dear

Friends may be loved ones and loved ones may be friends

But with both your love you give and theirs you win

You are a friend and a loved one too

I hope my love is shown to you

You helped me with music and music is dear

For when the heart is sad, music brings it good cheer

Music has helped me and helped you too

So when I hear it or play it I will think of you

Although sometimes we will be far away

The thought of you will never go away

I will never forget you wherever I go

I will send you letters so this you will know

Bonnie Jean

August 20 1972

Below is yet another poem I wrote about friendship. I hope that these three poems have made it clear that we all need friends.

FRIENDSHIP

F un being together

R egardless of the weather

I nterested in similar things

E njoying the happiness that it brings

N eeds are met in a special way

D oing for each other along the way

S tories and secrets easily share

H earts poured out because they care

I nspiration you give and take

P eace is the product that you make

 And when you see what is here,

It’s the best thing anywhere.

 For everybody needs to have friendship,

No matter how many people are in their kinship.

 Bonnie Jean

 July 8, 1991

Another type of friends are the ones that are usually referred to as “Good Weather Friends”. This means that they are only there when things are going good for you. As soon as things start going south, they take off. Some of them may even be the reason why things are not going very well. It isn’t until after they have left, and are no longer in the picture that you realize why they were in your life to start with. They were in your life to teach you a valuable life lesson,  to show you that not all people are good, and not all people can be trusted. Usually these “friends” ( if you want to continue to call them that) are not in your life very long. You realize that when the going became rough, they also got going, right out of your life. They didn’t want to stay around and suffer with you through the bad times. So, in essence, their staying only a short time was a good thing.

There are some times when a person is only in our lives, less than or a little over a year, and they pass away. When this happens, especially to an infant, we can’t help but to wonder why. Then we realize that it was to teach us to love and make attachments to people in a short time. In other words, to take a chance, that it is going to make a difference for us. And once the passing has occurred, we learn how to accept and handle the different stages of grief. In that lesson we learn that different people handle things in different ways and at different speeds. So this is an instance where the person being in our life only for a short time was good for us.

When we move to a new neighborhood, whether it is close to us, or far away from our current residence, we have to exhibit different qualities. These qualities include having courage, having self respect, and having the willingness to make the first step to meet the new neighbors. However, if the neighbor makes the first move to welcome us to the neighborhood, we have to exhibit the same qualities to accept their good will. The people may end up being our new best friends. Even if we only stay in that neighborhood a few years, in that short time we gained a new friend. In everything that we do, we grow and learn new things. The people that are in our lives help us to accomplish the growth that we gain.

We are the only one that has the ability to figure out just why a particular person is or was in our life. Is or was this person in our life to teach us humility and how to show compassion for someone, or to teach us not to be so trusting in people that may be taking us for a spin, so to speak? It’s all up to us individually to figure it out. We have to do our best to have a level head about our decisions, and to live with the decision that we make..

There Is Always Someone Worse Off Than You

I know that most of you have heard the saying that “There is always someone worse off than you.” Probably, when things are going badly, you have to wonder about that. Today I am posting on different babies and children that are facing life with problems that seem to be not even compatible with life, and in essence against all odds. But they are living, none the less. Just try to remember these babies and their families the next time that you think that life couldn’t be any worse than what you are living. For these children and babies, they were born with everything stacked against them, yet they are surviving and smiling. Think about their future and all of the trials and tribulations that they will have to face for as long as they are alive. Some may not live to be adults, but they were not even expected to survive the first 24 hours of their respective lives.

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The first one is about a baby who had a birth defect that was visible on his prenatal ultra sounds. However, at the time, it was not clear what the birth defect was. Once the baby was born, it was discovered that the baby had a condition called encephalocele that caused his brain to grow through a hole in his skull and into his nose.

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The baby is now (or at the time of the article he was) 21 months old. it may look like he wouldn’t be able to breathe, but he has nostrils, just they are not side by side like normally is the case. He has one nostril on either side of the birth defect.

His mother and his big sister love him very much. He seems to be a happy baby, in spite of the growth on his nose. His Mother takes up for him whenever people make rude or hurtful remarks and act like bullies.

Read the article to get the full story.

the URL to the story is: http://www.littlethings.com/ollie-pinocchio-baby-v5/?utm_source=idc&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=babies

************************************************************************************************* The second baby was born without the top of his skull having developed before his birth. The baby was not supposed to make it through the night, or even for 24 hours.

This is a miracle baby for sure.

Even though he is missing part of his brain, and has only the bottom part of his skull, he is learning to talk.

This part of the article shows that he is still beating all of the odds. Obviously his family loves him very dearly also. He truly is a miracle baby.

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The third story is about a little girl who was born without bones, yet she is still living, and obviously she is happy. Miraculously some bones started growing by the time she reached 18 months old.  The URL to her story is:    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2312985/Janelly-Martinez-Amador-Incredible-bravery-girl-6-born-bones-overcome-illness-learn-dance.html

In the first picture below, Janelly Martinez Amador is just laying on the floor. In the second picture, you can see her feet turned almost backwards. Apparently she can’t feel it because she has very little bone structure. In the third picture you can see that it is necessary to use a harness to make sure that she doesn’t fall out of her wheelchair.

You can read all about her in the story referenced by the URL above.

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We Need To Be More Accepting And Compassionate Of Others

Like the title says, we need to be more accepting and compassionate of others. This is especially true of those of us that happen to be disabled or handicapped, either from birth, from an illness, or from some sort of accident.

As those of you that have read some of my blogs may already know, I am disabled due to an illness as well as numerous orthopedic problems. For a very good summation of when the disability started, please read the blog of March 5, 2016 titled “There Is Almost Always Someone Worse Off Than You”. Below you will find a picture of what I looked like when I worked, before I lost my job for being too disabled, and having to have too many surgeries.

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One of my best friends was born with a condition called arthrogryposis as well as having spina bifida. He is unable to bend his arms, his legs, or his hands, and can only slightly bend his fingers. He can move his fingers enough to do computer work. As a matter of fact, he is a genius when it comes to computers. Below is a picture of Vladimir and his girlfriend Kalin.

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There is one very famous little boy, that people all over the world know, that is disabled due to an accident, and his name is Tripp Halstead. On Sept. 11, 2010, Tripp Hughes Halstead was born. He was injured by a tree limb falling out of a tree and hitting him in his head on the morning of Oct. 29, 2012.  He was not expected to survive the night. I have been following him since about the first or second week after his accident. Below is a picture of Tripp before the accident. he was such a smart, sweet little boy that everywhere that he went people would come to be with him.Tripp Before Accident

The next picture was right after the accident when he was in the hospital, right after his initial surgery and not expected to live. Nothing like the vivacious little boy above.Tripp After Accident and Surgery

This next picture is of how Tripp used to be right after he was discharged from the hospital to finally go back home. These were his stiff and expressionless days.

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The next picture is of Tripp now days. He still cannot do much more that have awesome facial expressions and try his hardest to move his arms and legs and to talk. He has come so far. It is just amazing. But he still has a long way to go. However, he is alive and he is happy most of the time. The two pictures bellow show some of his facial expressions.

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Everyday he makes great strides in his alertness and his overall personality. Tripp is really a trooper. Nobody knows how much more he will progress, but he has already surpassed any expectations that anybody had after his accident. He is truly a miracle little boy. He tries so hard to talk, and his laugh is contagious. He just keeps progressing more and more everyday. Below is a picture of Trip with his Mom and Dada in a special article that was done on him. To read the complete article go to http://bit.ly/1QKBoDa

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My purpose in doing this article is to point out how many different ways there are that someone can become disabled or handicapped. Society needs to stop treating us like we are third class citizens and don’t deserve to even exist on this earth. My friend has helped so many people with their computers that there is absolutely no way to keep count of them. I went back to school pulling oxygen tanks and wearing a face mask. I started work looking like the picture above. All of us handicapped or disabled people fight everyday just to be able to enjoy things that most people take for granted every day of their lives. We do matter, much to some people’s dismay.

I may be wrong in my thinking, but every time somebody treats me badly or doesn’t wait long enough for me to cross the street, because the walk sign has already changed, I wish that they would have to be in a wheelchair for a few days and see just what it’s like for us. I can almost guarantee that once someone that is so call it normal ends up in a wheelchair, they will think and act quite differently from what they currently act.

There is a story that I think about every time I hear someone talk about not being able to deal with the limitations of a disabled or handicapped person. The story goes something like this: One day a disabled veteran had finally been returned to the states after a lengthy recovery form injuries received during the war. Not wanting his parents to welcome him home just because he was their son, he called them first. He went on to describe his “best friend” that needed a place to stay until he could get back on his feet. He started out by saying that the friend had night terrors and would sometimes cry and scream out in the night. His parents said that theat was OK, and that they would let him stay in the bedroom further-est away from them so his screaming would not bother anybody. The son went on to say that he had only one arm and would need help with being fed. Once again, his parents said that there would be no problem with them helping to feed him. Then came the last straw. He told them that he had no legs and had to use the bathroom in his bed or else someone had to carry him to the bathroom and physically put him on the toilet. At that point his parents said that they could not handle that. He told their son that they were sorry, but that his friend would have to find some place else to stay, that he could not stay with them. They said that it would be hard enough for him, their son, to get used to being back home and having to deal with the PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) that everybody was talking about all of the returning servicemen having to deal with. At that point the son said OK, that he understood what they were saying. Just a few hours later there came a knock at the parents door. It was the local police. They told the parents that they had found a serviceman in a phone booth that had only one arm and no legs. He had blown his head off. Unfortunately the police said that the ID was that of their son. At that point the Mother passed out. She realized that the son was feeling them out asking them about accepting the friend when it was actually him that he was talking about. He did not want to be a burden on them.

Please take the story to heart. You never know when the handicap or disability may happen to a loved one or even yourself. Learn to be more accepting and compassionate to the disabled or handicapped people that you come upon.

 

 

 

 

Why People Pray

This blog is in no way trying to influence you to pick any particular religion or way of practicing your faith. I am merely trying to explain the practice of praying from my own experiences. Whether or not you start practicing any religion is entirely up to you. Don’t let anyone push you into anything that you feel confused about doing. First I Googled facts about praying practices. The article below is the third response that showed up. As I am a Christian, I chose this one to expound upon. The article is from    http://www.religionfacts.com/  Please don’t think that I am trying to force anything on anyone, because I am not. I am just trying to let you know the basics as I see them. This article sounds like something that I might have written myself.

Christian Practices

Christian practices vary by denomination, but common elements include a Sunday worship service, private and corporate prayer, study and reading of the Scriptures, and participation in rites such as baptism and communion (known as sacraments).Christian worship services generally include singing, prayer and a sermon. Most churches have a special ritual for ordination, or designating a person fit for a leadership position in the church. At home, most practicing Christians pray regularly and many read the Bible.Many Christians will have been baptized, either as an infant or as an adult, and regularly participate in communion (also called the Lord’s Supper and the Eucharist). Baptism and communion are considered sacraments – sacred rituals instituted by Christ himself. The Catholic Church recognizes five additional sacraments, as well as many other distinctive practices that are known as “sacramentals” or “devotions” and include praying the rosary and going on pilgrimages.Distinctive Catholic practices include recognition of seven total sacraments, Sunday mass, devotion to the Virgin Mary and the saints, and veneration of relics and places associated with holy figures. Eastern Orthodoxy holds many practices in common with Catholicism, but is especially distinguished by the central role of icons: ornate images of Christ and the saints believed to provide a connection to the spiritual world.*************************************************************************************************As I was brought up in a family that practiced religion and worshiping God, that is all that I can draw upon. I was taken to Sunday School and Church every Sunday as a small child. I can’t really remember much before I turned about three years old. There were a lot of little songs for the small children to sing such as Jesus Loves The Little Children, Deep And Wide, The B-I-B-L-E, Jesus Loves Me, A Sunbeam, and others.Praying was a big part of my life. I would pray to thank God for what He has given me, and for keeping me safe. I pray to ask God to help me in times of need, or when I am scared of something. I pray to thank God for giving me my life to live and the body to live it in. There are many many reasons to pray. Sometimes all I say in my prayer is – “Thank You God just for being there and listening to my prayers.

Every time before we ate, we said the grace. This prayer is a prayer for thanking God for our food. It was a simple prayer that was not hard for children to learn. It went something like this – God is great, God is good. Let us thank Him for our food. By His hands we all are fed. Give us Lord our daily bread. Amen. All of our prayers ended with Amen. A religious word to acknowledge God.

At bedtime we said our night time prayers. The bedtime prayer went something like this – Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take. Amen. By praying this prayer we asked God to take us to Heaven if we died before we woke up.

There is a verse in the Bible that says wherever two or more are gathered in My name, there I may be also. Whenever someone asks me to pray for them I always start out by saying – Dear Heavenly Father, It states that where two or more are gathered in Your name, there You may be also. For the sake of simplicity I am going to insert the name Tripp, a little boy that I am praying for and my friend, Alex, as being the other one here with me. The prayer will go as follows – “Dear Heavenly Father, It states that where two or more are gathered in Your name, there You may be also. Alex and I are here in Your name. We are asking for your healing hand on Tripp, if it be Your will. You know that Tripp had hip surgery on January 20, 2016 and is in a lot of pain. He is just a little 5 year old boy, and the epidural was removed today, as well as his catheter. Now his Mother has to move his hips to change his diaper, and it causes him a lot of pain. He doesn’t understand why the things were removed from him today. If it be Your will, please help him to be able to stand the pain. He has a long way to go with his recovery. Please be with him along the way. He has come such a long way since his accident three years ago. Many people are praying for him, as they have been since his accident. Thank You for helping him to progress as far as he has progressed already, and thank You in advance for continuing to help him until he is as well as he can be for the injury that he received. Amen.”

Whenever I pray, I always say, “If it be your will.” I know that if I ask for something that isn’t in God’s will, and make it happen, then it will go wrong. This is just my belief. Other people have other ways to pray, but this is the way that I pray.

In churches the different pastors pray in different ways also. There have been preachers that have done what is called “The anointing of oil.” or “The anointing with oil.” on me. The thought being that there is power in the oil because it was blessed by God.  This is a practice that began way back in Bible times. I believe in the Bible, so I let the pastors anoint me with the oil.

There are pictures below showing one of the verses in the Bible about the anointing with oil, and a picture of a present day person actually being anointed with oil. The picture of the poster with the verse is from http://www.patheos.com/

Bible-Verses-About-Anointing - Exodus 29-7

The picture of the actual anointing with oil is from http://siloaminstitute.org/tag/bible/

anointed-with-oil

There is a practice called “The laying on of hands.” It also started back in Bible times. It is thought that when the leaders of the church lay on their hands, some of their faith and power of healing passes on to the person that they are laying their hands on, this practice also having been blessed by God. I have also had preachers from different churches lay their hands on me when I was going through difficult times

This picture is from http://www.lifeway.com/pastors/2014/02/25/ordination-and-the-laying-on-of-hands/

laying on of hands

As I was brought up in a religious atmosphere, I have been praying for as long as I can remember. I believe in miracles. Miracles are things that cannot possibly happen, but they happen anyway. There have been many times that things that should not have been medically possible have actually happened. I read about people that have been dead for hours coming back to life, and diseases that there have been apparently no cure for them, but the person is cured and lives. As a matter of fact my life has been touched by miracles on different occasions. I should have died when I was just ten days old from a kidney infection. The doctors had given up on me, but I obviously lived. I play it down by saying to other people, “I had a kidney infection so bad when I was 10 days old that I almost died from it.” I don’t usually mention the word miracle. There are many people that do not believe in miracles, and that’s OK. People can believe whatever they want to believe. We live in America and have that freedom.

When I was fifteen months old, I had a tumor pressing on my brain. Doctors did surgery to remove the tumor when I was 22 months old. I was in a cast from my head down to my belly button and my arms were in the cast sticking straight out from my sides. I was in a drug induced comma to keep me from moving. My Mother was not allowed to see me, because she could not pick me up, and if I cried or moved in any way, I would end up being paralyzed from the neck down. It was hard for her, but she made it and so did I.

Fast forward to November of 2000. I had to have surgery to receive an artificial bladder. I have a neurogenic bladder and am unable to tell when I need to use the restroom. On November 2, 2000 I had surgery and received an artificial bladder that had been made from my intestines. That was over 15 years ago. I have been told that almost all of the patients that received an artificial bladder back then died within the first two to three years. So in essence, I have received a miracle again.

I am a survivor of all types of abuse when I was growing up. I was taken away from my family when I was 17 years old because of it. Had I not had my faith in God, I do not think that I could have survived. It is my personal belief that everybody has to have something or someone to believe in to get them through the most difficult times in their lives. For some it is God. There are many names for God. It all depends on what religion you are, and whether or not you have a religion. There are people that I know that do not actually have a religion, they just say that they believe in a higher power than what they are. This is their right, and one person does not have a right to tell another person that they are wrong in their belief, unless their “religion” states that they are supposed to kill other people. There is no way that it is right to take another person’s life because a religion states that it is right. If someone is about to kill you for any reason, then you have a right to defend yourself and kill them, but not because of religion. Of course in war there is a lot of killing, but it is war, and therefore understandable that people are going to die. It would be great if different countries and nationalities could just settle things by talking out whatever their differences are. Then there would not be so much killing.

 

 

Eight Things To Give Up In 2016

I found this on my Facebook yesterday and thought that it deserved to be expounded upon. It is from sun-gazing.com.

8 Things To Give Up In 2016

I am not trained in psychology or any other medical field. These statements are just how I see life and how I feel about each subject. Please do not take these for medical or psychological fact. If you need help in figuring out anything about any of the things that I have said, please seek professional help. I am only writing what I have seen, read, and/or experienced personally.

Doubting Yourself

If you are a person that doubts yourself very often, then other people will tend to doubt you too. If you want others to believe in you you have to believe in yourself.

Negative Thinking

I have found that when I start having negative thinking everything around me suffers. I get so negative that I just don’t want to do anything. My thoughts automatically go to, “Why should I even try to do – – – – – -? It will just be wrong anyway. So why waste my time and effort to do it?” Then I realize what I am doing and do some positive self talking, and immediately get into a better frame of mind.

Fear of Failure

Whenever I start to try to do something new, I am always afraid that I will fail at it. Basically you could call me a big chicken, (pun intended). Then I realize that if I don’t try to do whatever it is, then I will never be successful at anything. You have to try it before you know whether or not you can do it. Even when you try and fail, you still have the satisfaction of knowing that you tried. You have another benefit of knowing what not to do the next time you try to do it again, if it is something that you have to figure out how to do it. There are times when you try to do something just for the heck of trying it, and then there are time that you try to do something because you have to figure out how to do whatever it is before you can go on to the next step. So never be afraid of failing. be like Edison when he invented the light bulb and had so many failures. I’m quoting from Google. As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”  

Criticizing Yourself & Others

Whenever and wherever criticism is involved, unless it is constructive criticism, it doesn’t do anybody any good. If you are a bully, and criticizing others makes you feel big, then you are a pitiful and unhappy person to have to stoop that low to be able to feel good about yourself. Just think for a minute how you would feel if someone did the same thing to you. No matter how big you are, there is always going to be someone bigger that you that can put you in your place. If you find something worthwhile to do, then you will feel better about yourself, and others will feel better too.

When you criticize yourself you are setting yourself up for failure. If you can’t speak good about yourself, then how can you think that anybody else will say positive things about you? You can always say that “I am not any better or worse than anybody else. We are all people just the same as each other.” If you have special training for a position , then you need to speak up about it and not make it seem like you haven’t accomplished anything. Be proud of what you have done. Just don’t go overboard and start being conceited about every little thing there is about you. Try to stay positive and on an even ground as much as possible. Try to always wake up in a good mood and start the day out right.

Negative Self Talk

Negative self talk in sort of on the same lines as not criticizing yourself. You have to pump yourself up as best as you can to stay on an even ground. When you go around talking down to yourself, you set yourself up for failure. We all need to be like the little train that we learned about in grade school. The little train was going up a big hill and was having a hard time getting up it. After a few seconds the little engine decided that he wasn’t going to give up, so he just kept telling himself “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can. When he finally reached the top of the hill and was heading down the other side, his chant turned to, “I thought I could, I thought I could, I thought I could.” And he was right. He did it through positive self talk, not negative self talk.

Procrastination

Procrastination is when someone puts off, for any amount of time, something that they can do today. A phrase that keeps many people from procrastinating is, “Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” For the most part, whenever someone procrastinates, they usually think that whatever it is that they are putting off is just going to take too long to do. What they don’t realize is that if they went ahead and did whatever it is that they have put off doing, they would most likely already be done with it in less time than what it took to keep putting it off. For instance, if you put off doing your homework, and spend an hour or two each time that you convince yourself to put it off, by the time that you actually do your homework you could have had it finished hours sooner and been doing something much more enjoyable than thinking about why you are putting off doing your homework. For those not in school any longer, in other words us adults that just don’t want to do whatever it is, we may find that by putting it off,  by the time you are ready something out of your control may prevent you from doing whatever it is that you didn’t do. Let’s say you don’t want to go to the grocery store. It is a beautiful day outside and you just want to enjoy the day. You keep putting it off everyday. You go to your food cabinet and discover that you are almost out of everything because you have put off going to the store for so long. You have no choice but to go to the store. You get dressed and are ready to leave when a really bad storm comes out of nowhere and you can’t go to the store. The storm knocks out all the electricity and you can’t leave your house. Now what are you going to do. You start getting upset with yourself because you didn’t go to the store when you had a chance. Unfortunately, it is now too late to go to the store. Just hope you can make it until the electric comes back on and the storm stops. Some people may be OK with this situation. I am not one of them. My philosophy is that you should never let yourself run out of anything that is necessary to live. Don’t be a procrastinator. Just go ahead and do whatever it is that needs to be done.

Fear of Success

Don’t be afraid to succeed. Unfortunately there are some people that are so scared of change that they are afraid of success, because success would mean change. I am afraid of change, but I am not afraid of success. Even though I am afraid of change, I do change, it just takes me a while to get used to it. I have to do a lot of positive self talk while I am getting used to the change. It isn’t easy, but I know that I have to do it. One way that I have found that works well for me is that I tell myself that it is OK no matter what way it goes. If things go better, I will be better off for it, but if they don’t go better but stay the same, then I am no worse off for it. That being the case, go for it with gusto.

People Pleasing

There is a saying that I have heard for many years that goes something like this, “You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of the time, but there is no way that you can ever please all of the people all of the time!” When you stop to think about it you realize that there is pure truth in that saying. That being the case, a person would go totally crazy trying to please everybody that they know and some people that they don’t even know yet. Do yourself a favor and don’t try to please everybody all of the time. There does need to be give and take in all relationships, but not just out and out always pleasing the other person all of the time and never pleasing yourself. You can’t always please the other person and never get any pleasure yourself. If the other person has to always have their way, then maybe you need to think about finding another friend that will please you sometime too. Never getting any pleasure yourself makes a person become very bitter. Everybody has to have pleasure sometimes or they will just become like a hermit. They will figure what is the use in even doing anything because everything is always about the other person being happy and you never are happy yourself. Everybody has to have some happiness at sometime or another. Humans were not meant to be miserable all the time.