Parents Aren’t The Only Ones

This was on Kelly Bagnasco in my Facebook. This doesn’t only go for parents. This can also go for brothers, sisters, and aunts and uncles. I can’t help but to wonder why aunts and uncles never get mentioned whenever there is anything to do with children. It’s always the parents and grandparents that are thought about. Aunts and uncles are capable of having and giving love to their nieces and nephews the same as parents are of giving it to their children and grandparents are of giving it to their grandchildren. So why are aunts and uncles always left out. It just hurts. This is especially true if they wanted children really badly but were never able to have them. Watching everybody else having fun with the children just punches it home all the harder. And yes I am one of those people that was never able to have children bur wanted them more than anybody could know. Even though I am 65, it still hurts to this day that I was never able to have children.

Just think about that the next time everybody that has children gets together and leaves the childless members of the family out. Just because we don’t have children doesn’t mean that we are not capable of loving children and wanting to be around them.

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Some “Food” For Thought

In this post I am going to write some verses and different things that I have heard, through the years, that really made me stop and think. When different things happen to me or to my friends, some of these verses come back to me and that in turn makes others, that may not be related to the original situation, come back as well. Below you will find the ones that have been running through my head lately. Maybe they will make you stop and think too.

Satan

Satan is a monster of such awful means,

That to be hated needs but be seen.

But seen too oft, with familiar face,

We first endure, and then embrace.

 

Mistakes

Learn from the mistakes of others.

You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.

 

(I saw this on a cloth bag someone was carrying.)

What you think,

you become.

What you feel,

you attract,

What you imagine,

you create.

Creative Yoga

 

Now, I’m going to talk about regrets. We all have had them, and for as long as we live, from time to time, we will continue to have them. They are inevitable. We cannot avoid them. None of us is perfect. We are going to say something that we shouldn’t say, do something we shouldn’t do, go somewhere we shouldn’t go, or just the opposite we won’t speak up when we should, we won’t do something that we need to do when it needs to be done, or we won’t go someplace where we should go. And when it is all said and done, we regret whichever of those things above that we are guilty of.

Most of the time, we can make amends for whichever one we are guilty. We can apologize for saying something wrong or doing something wrong, or just the opposite., we can apologize for not doing or saying whatever it is that we were supposed to do or say.

I say most of the time, because you cannot make amends whenever the other person has passed away. It never fails, whenever we are upset with someone else, or just don’t like them for whatever reason, and we stay away from them, avoiding them like the plague so to speak, that when they pass away, we experience that pang of guilt.

That pang of guilt I talk about could very easily have happened to me. When I was growing up, I had two step-fathers. My real Father had left when my Mother was expecting her fourth child. She married my first step-father when I was 9 years old. He drank quite a bit, but never would admit that he was an alcoholic. I didn’t like to eat many things, and would get a beating when we were eating, if it was something that I didn’t like. He would also beat me whenever he got drunk. As a result, I stayed angry at my Mother for not protecting me from him. I even went so far as to say that I wouldn’t even be very upset if my Mother was to die. Well, she was diagnosed with breast cancer in January of 2000 or 2001, I can’t remember which. They did surgery and removed the cancerous lump, and apparently they got it all, because she hasn’t had any problems since then. It was at that moment when I realized that I would indeed be upset if my Mother passed away. Since then, my Mother and I have had a good relationship. Every year I went to see her and my second step-father (“Pop”), until I no longer had a car. Every time I had surgery, my Mom and “Pop” came to stay with me and help me until I was back up on my feet. I no longer have a car, and Pop passed away in 2011, but I still keep in touch with my Mom. She lives with my sister, and I call to talk to her. I got to spend two weeks with her last year when my sister and brother-in-law went on a trip, and I took care of my Mom while they were gone. I got to see the rest of the family that lives around the area too. It was a really nice trip. Now I no longer have any regrets like I would have had had I not resolved things about my Mom.

Whenever I think about regrets, I can’t help but to think about the song that Frank Sinatra wrote, and made famous when he sang it, “My Way”. It starts out the end being near and facing the final curtain. He goes on about all that he has done, and then brings up about having regrets. That little part goes;         “Regrets, I’ve had a few

                                                           But then again, too few to mention

                                                                      I did what I had to do

                                                         And saw it through without redemption”

This goes to show that even very important people can have regrets. But as he says he saw them through.

What I am trying to say or ask is, is there anybody that you are upset or angry with to the point that you won’t talk to them or go to see them? And if so is it worth it to the point that you would feel badly if they were to pass away? If you would feel badly if they were to pass away, then you need to do something about resolving whatever it is that has you so upset with them. Life is too short to spend it being upset with any family member or friend that has said or done something to upset you. Try to get back on good terms with them. If the person has medical issues where they don’t know who you are, don’t stay away for that reason, go to see them anyway. You know them and that is all that counts. You may end up visiting on a day when they do recognize you. Once they have passed away, it’s too late then to make amends. All you will have is regrets, remorse, and guilt about not going to see them or at least trying to talk to them. It may haunt you for the rest of your life. Then you will have the “If only I would have gone to see (fill in the blank)“, thoughts.

I know people who this has happened to. They don’t like a grandmother or grandfather, or great aunt or great uncle, or whoever it may be, so they won’t go see them or talk to them. Next thing you know, the person is at death’s door with only a few hours to live and they don’t know anybody, then they pass away and you didn’t even see them for that one last time. Your heart hurts, you are full of sadness, and your eyes swell up with tears. You are having regrets for not going to see them, but it is too late. Don’t let this happen to you. Just seriously think about it. Is worth it to regret it for the rest of your life, that you and whoever did not reconcile your differences? I don’t know about you, but it’s not worth it to me.

I am so glad that I had some good years with my Mom before my Pop passed away and she withdrew into herself. When she woke up and found him next to her, cold as ice and stiff as a board, she just withdrew. All she would say is “I don’t know what I’m going to do, I don’t know what I’m going to do.” Pop died in his sleep from a diabetic coma.  My Mom called 911, hoping that he could be revived, but that wasn’t to be. The rescue squad said he had passed early in the night, for the amount of stiffness that he had.

My Mom has stayed with my older brother, and then my sister, back and forth, since Pop passed away. If Pop had have been my real Father, I never would have had a step-father to begin with. I loved him so much, and will miss him until the day I myself die.

Moral of the post is “Life is too short to spend it having regrets when a loved one or friend passes away, after having been estranged from them, because of an argument or misunderstanding.”

 

A Post For Thought

Saw this little poster on Facebook and thought I would expound on it some. Hope you give it some thought too. I will have to type out what the poster said because it gives me an error when I try to open it in this post.I copied it and pasted it here, but I don’t know how long it will continue to show up, that is why I am also typing it here. It makes a whole lot os sense when you really stop and think about it.

The poster is by The Mind’s Consciousness. It goes on to say:

“Imagine this: If you had $86,400 in your account and someone stole $10 from you, would you be upset and throw all of the remaining $86,390 away in hopes of getting back at the person who took your $10? Or move on and live? Right, move on and live. See, we all have 86,400 seconds each day. Don’t let someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the remaining 86,390. Don’t sweat the small stuff, Life is bigger than that.”

It also says to type yes if you agree, but that is only effective if you are doing it in Facebook. It won’t work here, unfortunately.

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When you think about it this way, it doesn’t make sense for us to let what another person says or does ruin our day. Of course that isn’t the case if the other person physically hurts you, it’s only talking about their negative actions. It’s like the little saying that most parents teach their kids growing up, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never harm me.” The words may make us feel bad, but it is only because we let them. If we just turn and walk away while shrugging the words away, then they won’t upset us.

Hope you have or have had a great day today. I’m going to try to remember this analogy of the seconds in everybody’s day and not let others negativity upset me. I know I won’t always succeed, but at least I will be better off for trying. Why don’t you try it too?

Some Words For Thought

I came across this on my Facebook when I was reading a post by Kelly Bagnasco. When you stop and think about it, it is so true. If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Treat the Root, Not the Symptom

Are you treating the outside but missing the root cause, a negative mind-set toward yourself? Your thinking in some area may be infected. Continuously have positive thoughts playing in your mind. When you play thoughts like that, the toxins can’t stay. Your mind is being renewed.

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Our attitude that we start the day out with determines how we feel during the day, as well as how we affect others and rub off on them. That little saying “Brighten the corner where you are.” is so true. Just a little light can brighten a dark room. If you don’t believe it, just try plugging in a little night light. Granted the light isn’t light enough to read by, or do anything delicate by, but it does allow you to see what is in the room.

When you are thinking happy and upbeat thoughts, it’s impossible to not feel good about yourself and the day, The same goes for when you are helping others. When you are helping others in need, no matter how big or how small the need, it’s not possible to feel bad when you see the look of happiness on the person’s face. When they thank you and possibly hug you, you have to feel a certain amount of satisfaction about what you did.

For example: Last year, around October, I came up with the idea to crochet scarves for homeless people. I hadn’t crocheted in a long time, and couldn’t even remember how to cast on the yarn to start the first scarf. with starting so late, I was only able to crochet 7 scarves by December. My friend and I went downtown one evening to hand out the 7 scarves that I had finished. I figured that handing out the 7 was better than not handing out any. I couldn’t actually go to the area where the homeless people were gathered because some of them were smoking. I am asthmatic, and the cigarette smoke would make me have an asthma attack and have to be rushed to the hospital. Needless to say, I stayed a safe distance away from them.

After my friend had handed out all 7 of the scarves, he came back and told me that the few people that had received the scarves cried when they got them. He also told me that we should crochet more scarves for this next year. I agreed. So I started out the new year trying to cut my time down from around 10 days to do a scarf, to 5 days, if at all possible. I didn’t have very much luck, and in March I also started having a lot of medical issues. I was being rushed to the ER every month. I didn’t get back on my feet so to speak until some time in June.

In June, I also had to go to my storage unit to get my big suitcases out, as I was leaving the 5th of July to go help my sister, by taking care of my Mom while she and her husband went on a trip. While I was at the storage unit, I decided to bring home a small table, on rollers, that I had made while I was in college. At first, I just used it for miscellaneous things. One night when I was using it, I also used it while crocheting a scarf. I found that it made the whole process go quite a bit smoother than what it had been being done. Long story short, I have got the process down to where I can complete a scarf in 3 days now.

I am glad to report that I have 19 scarves crocheted at the current time, and am working on the 20th one. I look forward to working on the scarves everyday. It is not possible to tell you how good I feel doing this project. I am so committed to this that I have made a website just to report about the crocheted scarves for the homeless. The website is mammahen.org.

You are welcome to visit the site anytime you want. I am trying to recruit other people to help with crocheting the scarves, and have even asked that anybody that knows how to crochet hats will also volunteer to crochet some for the project. There is a contact page on the website where you may find out any and all the information necessary to help with the project. I make pictures of each scarf as I complete them and post them on the website. As soon as I can save up the money, I plan on making the website a Not For Profit website. There will be a donation button on the website for anybody that wishes to donate to the project. I just hope that if anybody wants to help raise the money towards the Not For Profit certificate, they will mark it on the donation. If there is no marking on a donation, then the donation will be used for yarn to crochet more scarves.

Even though I have numerous medical problems, my doing this project makes me happy everyday. I actually look forward to the time I spend on my crocheting the scarves. The main point that I wanted to make is, like I said earlier in the post, it is not possible to feel bad when you are doing something to help someone else.

 

Technology Is Wonderful as witnessed by me

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about the advances in technology, that I am aware of, in my lifetime, and how they have helped me. Having been born in the early 1950s, I have experienced many of the changes first hand. I will obtain as many pictures as possible from Google on the internet to show the items that I am talking about.

In the 1950s there was no such thing as “color TV” and there were only 3 channels in addition to PBS. The televisions were console models and had tubes in them that would burn out and have to be replaced.

Antique B&W Television tubes-inside-old-tv

Music was recorded on vinyl discs and played on phonographs. Many times the phonographs were also in a cabinet that resembled a low table and it also had a radio in it. There are some sample pictures below of both the records and the cabinets they phonographs were in.

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Home movies were on reels and had to be shown on machines that had attachments for the reels. It was also necessary to use a big screen to show them on.

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Regular pictures were taken on cameras that needed flash bulbs to get good pictures, and the film came in rolls that had to be threaded into the camera. The camera had to be wound after each picture. They used flash bulbs that had to be thrown away after just one use. Then came cameras that used film cartridges that did not have to be wound up after each picture and flash cubes that could be used to take four pictures before the cube had to be thrown away. After that came cameras that were automatic wind and flash, but you still had to use film cartridges. Finally came digital cameras with built in light sensors and cell phones that could also take and store pictures. The digital cameras and cell phones use SD cards for storage of the pictures.

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OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA cell-phone-camera

When I was growing up, we had a wringer washer to wash our clothes. It did not automatically cycle through a rinse cycle and then spin the clothes so they could be put in a dryer. The machine had to be emptied each time a different cycle was necessary, and that meant that all of the clothes had to be put through the wringer, one by one, to get the excess water out of them. We didn’t have automatic dryers, and the apartment that we lived in had pulley clothes lines, to hang the clothes on to dry outside. I found some internet pictures that are shown below.

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There was no such thing as a cell phone when I was growing up. All phones were wired into the wall, and most people even had what was called a “Party Line”, which meant anywhere from three to five different households had the same phone number. If there was someone else on the line and you needed to make an important call, you had to break in on the conversation and ask if they would mind hanging up the phone so that you could make the phone call. You were at the other person’s mercy as to whether or not they would end their call and let you use the phone. It was possible to have a private line, but they cost extra. You had to dial the number using a round dial with holes in it and the numbers were on the solid base of the phone. You would put your finger into whichever hole had the number you needed under it and then turn the dial clockwise until you hit the little stop piece.

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Touch tone phones did not come until after I was a teenager.

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Cell phones didn’t come until after I was an adult. There are flip phones too.

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For people in manual wheel chairs, the invention of power wheel chairs was about the best invention in their lives. The accessibility, to most people with insurance, made it possible for people that could not afford them on their own to be able to own a power chair. It was almost unbelievable to people with any type of paralysis. They were able to get around with a power chair, when they could not do so with a manual chair, unless someone was willing to push them. Even quadriplegics were able to get around, with the aid of a blow tube to control the chair.

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These are all really great inventions, but computers have to be the biggest change in all of the wonderful changes that I have seen and had a chance to use and own. To think that back in 1970, when I was in college for computer programming, I had to actually punch cards, stack them, and then verify them before I could run them to see if my program would work. First picture is of a man punching the cards. Second picture shows cards in the keypunch machine. Third picture shows stacking cards to put them in the machine that would verify them, the verifying machine is in the fourth picture.

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There was no such thing as a motherboard. There were physical boards, that had to be wired by hand, one wire at a time. These boards are what told the computer what to do. They were the fore runners to plug in modules, since there were no such things as modules

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Only businesses and very rich people had computers. The computer and all of its’ components could take up any where from one room to whole buildings. There were raised floors, so that cooling equipment could be installed under them. The temperature had to be kept between 68 and 72 degrees Fahrenheit in the rooms where the massive computers were set up.

Businesses had to be connected to their main computers by modems with internal dial-up routers.

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The businesses had actual floppy discs that were 8 inches square, or 5 and 1/4 inches square. The users had to be careful not to bend them, or the information that they contained would be corrupted. Then came the 3 and 1/2 inch square floppy discs that were actually hard plastic.All three sizes and types were called floppy discs though, because they had a very thin floppy disc inside, that contained whatever information that you entered into the computer.

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These floppy discs were the first type of storage, and later were replaced by hard drives. The hard drives were metal and had metal discs called platters inside of them. These platters spun around and as the data was entered into the computer, it was recorded on these platters. The first hard drives could only hold mega bytes and/or kilo bytes of data. It took a few years before the first Gigabyte storage capable hard drives were developed. My first Gigabyte hard drive was capable of storing 12 Gigabytes of data. When I had that installed into my computer, I thought it would last me for the rest of my life. I have since had hard drives capable of holding up to over 500 Gigabytes of data.

After the hard drives came external hard drives that could be carried and hooked up to computers in other places via a USB cable. These too were not capable of high volumes of data at first. Now internal hard drives and external hard drives are capable of holding Terabytes of data, and are also available in Solid State Drive form. A Solid State Drive is one that has no internal parts that move. Below are three hard drives. The one on the left is an internal hard drive, the one in the middle is a laptop hard drive, and the one on the left is a solid state hard drive. The solid state hard drive is the same size as the laptop hard drive is. Since the solid state hard drive has no moving parts, it will last indefinitely.

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Below is a comparison of a regular hard drive and a solid state drive.

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.The actual computer was in a very large metal case with the workings inside of it. These were called desk top computers, and came in various sizes. With the desktop computer it was necessary to use a separate monitor, keyboard and mouse. Some of the computers were able to be put flat and the monitor was placed on top of it, but most of them stood beside the monitor. See pictures below.

The monitors of the older computers used cathode ray tube (CRT) technology, and were separate from the computer. These first monitors were very bulky and heavy. They didn’t get moved very much. The CRT monitors were deep from front to back.

The next type of screen to come on board was the liquid crystal display (LCD). This type of screen had a sharper picture than the CRT, and was not as big and bulky. It was no where near as deep from front to back as the CRT, and was much easier to move from one area to another.

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After the LCD type of screen came the light emitting diode (LED) type of screen. These had an even sharper screen. They were very skinny from front to back when compared to the CRT, and even a bit smaller from front to back than the LCD screens were. Both the LCD and the LED screens were available in many different dimensions when compared the the CRT screens.

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After the LED screen cam the plasma display screen, and was the most vibrant of all of the screens before it. It was available in even bigger sizes, while still being very sleek. These screens even had High Definition (HD) capabilities.

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The most modern screens have touch screen technology built into them, as shown below.

touch-screen-display

The computers continued to be improved and made smaller and easier to be carried around. These came to be known as Laptop computers, and even smaller ones are called tablets. The tablets are more for watching movies ans playing games though, than for actually being used as computers. They usually didn’t have keyboards with them and therefore were not practical for business use. Now, however there are tablets that have magnetic keyboards that may be connected to them, so they may be used as regular laptops.A regular laptop is shown on the left, and a tablet with a magnetic keyboard is shown on the right.

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The first computer that I had was one that friends gave to me. It was a standup desktop with a CRT screen, keyboard and regular mouse. I later had a computer built to my specifications that also had a CRT, but it was a 17 inch screen. I had a keyboard and a regular mouse.

Today my mouse is an optical mouse. Even though I have a laptop that has a mouse pad and a keyboard contained in it, I like using an external mouse and an external keyboard. I am a senior citizen, and it is just easier for me to use the external devices.

The portability of a laptop is great. When I take the laptop anyplace, all I take is the external mouse, and use the keyboard that is made into the laptop.

When I think of all the technological changes that have happened in my lifetime, I am all but overwhelmed. It is simply amazing to see how far technology has come. Children of today, and even many adults will never know what having vinyl records playing on a record player was like. Nor will they know what a hardwired house phone ( more commonly called a land line) was like. They will never have known black and white TV, VHS movies, cassette tapes and eight tracks, cameras with flash bulbs and film that had to be wound after each picture. With being able to make videos on cell phones, they won’t know what home movies and home movie projectors are all about. By the same token they will not know what having negatives to pictures is all about since they can take and store pictures on their cell phones and upload them to the cloud. With mp3 players they don’t have to have walk men for the CD, and DVDs have evolved to Blue Ray and now even 4k, I think they are called. The x-box is going away to a degree, since most games can now be purchased and played on PCs and/or laptops.

Even though some of the advances are hard to get used to at first, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Technology is wonderful, and change will never stop happening. When you stop wanting to learn new things, you stop living to a degree. I am very thankful for the changes that I have come to depend on each and every day. There is no way that I can single out how they have helped me and which one is better than another. But if I had to pick just one, I would have to pick the phone first. And if by chance I could pick two things, I would have to pick the laptop next.

Handling Bullying and Criticism

There is a saying, that probably everybody has heard at one time or another, and it is, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never harm me.” This is true in the sense that words cannot break your bones, but the part that they cannot harm you is false. Words can harm a person in ways that cannot be seen. They cause mental and emotional scars that can only be felt on the inside by the person that they were said to.

Nine times out of ten the hurtful words are said by someone that has been hurt badly. This person wants someone else to hurt just as bad as they do. Many, if not most bullies start out this way. There are many reasons why the bully may be hurting, and there will always be reasons that can never be known by another person, because the bully doesn’t trust anyone enough to tell them what is bothering them. It is possible that they may not even know or fully realize the reason them self. It could be that all they know is that they are hurting and they want to hurt someone else. This in no way gives this person the right to bully someone else, but bullies don’t care about rights.

Bullying is the ultimate form or criticism, and can be worse than criticism if and when it turns physical. Not only is the person that is doing the bullying a very unhappy person, but they do not have a very good self image, self esteem, self worth, whatever you want to call it. They are also very unstable, and that being the case, they could become violent at any time. Granted the person may boast of doing great things and having many material possessions, but chances are that it is all false, and this person is bullying you to make him or her self feel big, and by feeling big they feel better.

For some reason, whenever one person can make another person feel bad about them self, then that person feels good about them self. By the same token, when the bully actually becomes physical, they feel strong and that makes them feel superior. I know that it is hard not to pay attention to the bully, but try your best not to let the bully know that they are making you feel bad and/or that you are scared of them. If they have hurt you physically, or threatened your life, CALL THE POLICE!!!!!

I have seen too many videos done by family members of people that were bullied and couldn’t take it and they committed suicide. It is not worth losing your life over a bully. You may think that whatever the bully does must be OK because they have so many people following them and doing whatever the bully wants them to do. The true fact is probably that the followers are the victims of the bully also. Apparently they can’t find a way to make the bully stop bullying them so as a result they follow the bully and do anything that the bully tells them to do. After all, if they are doing just what the bully tells them to do, how can the bully be upset with them and keep bullying them? The bully has won his control over them.

Please try to be strong and not let the bully take control of your life. Being the so call it slave to the bully is not a very good life to live. If people could find a way to stand up to the bully, then maybe the bully would have to stop all of his bullying, because possibly so many people would find that they could stand up to the bully and not be controlled by him. When too many people are not afraid of him and making him feel big and important, he no longer has a reason to be a bully. Enough about bullies.

Now to criticism. There are two types of criticism, just out and out criticism, usually given out by people that are just plain judgemental and critical of others, and what is called constructive criticism.

All the first type of person knows how to do is to criticize others and be judgemental of them. For the most part, they are just blowing off steam. I listen to what they are saying and then just go about my business. I try to chalk their criticism up to them just having a bad day, or that all they know how to do is to be critical of other people. Then I go about my way and continue like I was before.

The second type of criticism comes from people that truly want to help other people out. They usually mainly try to point out thing to others that they perceive will help the other person in some way or another. I have found that for the most part, it is usually family members or friends that will give the constructive criticism. Some times bosses or supervisors will give employees constructive criticism to help them with their job duties.

Some examples of constructive criticism may be:

  1. Telling the other person a shorter or easier way to do a specific job, such as folding towels or sheets. The one making the comment may have noticed the other person having a hard time trying to figure out how to fold the sheets to make them fit in the space that they have to fit in. They may feel that by telling the other person a few different ways to fold them, one will be the correct way to make the sheets fit in the necessary space where they need to go.
  2. An older adult showing a younger adult the proper way to wash clothes. The younger person could be taking up housekeeping for the first time and not know some of the secrets to washing clothes that assure a clean wash. For example spraying stain remover on any clothes that have stains on them, because once the clothes go through the dryer, the stains will be set in on the clothes. Letting the younger person know that making sure that socks, underclothes, and other clothes will get cleaner if they are turned right side out. This is especially true for socks. If socks are left inside out, after they are washed and turned right side out, dirt may actually fall on the floor from where they did not come clean because of being wrong side out.
  3. The older person may point out that folding clothes while they are still warm will prevent the clothes from looking like they have been slept in. If clothes are allowed to remain in the laundry basket after they have been dried, then they will become very wrinkled, therefore the look of having been slept in.                                                                                                                            Hopefully these examples will show you what I mean by constructive criticism by family or friends.                                                                                                                                 When a boss gives constructive criticism, it is usually to help the employee be able to perform a job more efficiently, not to be mean to the employee. The boss may simply show the employee how to eliminate one or more steps out of a process from the way that the employee is currently doing the task. By eliminating that one or more steps, it is possible that quite a bit of time will be saved, and also be lowering the risk of a error taking place during the extra step or steps that the employee was doing.                                                                                                                               Hopefully this article will be helpful to quite a few people. Handling criticism is hard for many many people, so don’t be ashamed if it is hard for you. Just next time, try to remember some of the things that I have pointed out here,

You Need To Set High Goals For Yourself

There is a poem that I heard years ago. For whatever reason, the poem has intrigued me every time that I have thought about it. The poem has helped me through things that not many people have thought that I could do.

The title of this blog is an excerpt from the introduction to the poem. The full introduction is, “Be positive, set high goals for yourself and expect the same of others.”

The title of the poem is, “It Couldn’t Be Done”, the Author is Edgar A. Guest. I have copied the poem below.

       It Couldn’t Be Done

Somebody said that it couldn’t be done
      But he with a chuckle replied
That “maybe it couldn’t,” but he would be one
      Who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
      On his face. If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
      That couldn’t be done, and he did it!
Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that;
      At least no one ever has done it;”
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat
      And the first thing we knew he’d begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
      Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
      That couldn’t be done, and he did it.
There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
      There are thousands to prophesy failure,
There are thousands to point out to you one by one,
      The dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle in with a bit of a grin,
      Just take off your coat and go to it;
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
      That “cannot be done,” and you’ll do it.
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There is one other thing that has helped to give me a push. I first heard this song and watched the cartoon when I was four or five years old. It’s the song about the little engine that could. I looked up the lyrics and copied them here. The song was written by Watty Piper in 1930 and was sung by Burl Ives in the cartoon that I saw.

The Little Engine That Could

There was a little railroad train with loads and loads of toys
All starting out to find a home with little girls and boys
And as that little railroad train began to chug along
The little engine up in front was heard to sing this song

Choo choo, choo choo, choo choo, choo choo, I feel so good today
Oh, clear the track, oh clickety clack, Ill go my merry way

The little train went roaring on, so fast, it seemed to fly
Until it reached a mountain rising almost to the sky
The little engine moaned and groaned and huffed and puffed away
But halfway to the top it just gave up and seemed to say

I cant go on, I cant go on, Im weary as can be
I cant go on, I cant go on, this job is not for me

The toys got out to push but all in vain alas, alack
And then a great big engine came a whistling down the track
They asked if it would kindly pull them up the mountain side
But with a high and mighty sneer it scornfully replied

Dont bother me, dont bother me to pull the likes of you
Dont bother me, dont bother me, Ive better things to do

The toys all started crying cause that engine was so mean
And then there came another one, the smallest ever seen
But though it seemed that she could hardly pull herself along
She hitched on to the train and as she pulled she sang this song

I think I can, I think I can, I think I have a plan
And I can do ‘most anything if I only think I can

Then up that great big mountain with the cars all full of toys
And soon they reached the waiting arms of happy girls and boy
And though that ends the story it will do you lots of good
To take a lesson from the little engine that could

Just think you can, just think you can, just have that understood
And very soon youll start to say, I always knew I could

I knew I could, I knew I could, I knew I could
I knew I could, I knew I could, I knew I could, I knew I could

Songwriters

Read more: Burl Ives – The Little Engine That Could Lyrics | MetroLyrics

The moral of both instances is to never give up, and always have confidence in yourself. Even if you fail, you learn from the failure what not to do the next time. You need to try, whatever it was that you failed to do, yet another time. And if by chance you fail again, do it over another time. Never, never, never give up.

 

This also backs up, to a degree, a poem that I wrote many years ago titled “Winners Never Quit And Quitters Never Win”. I have referred to the poem before, and copied it for my readers, but it is one of those things that can be copied every now and then just to refresh my readers memories. I am copying it here again.

WINNERS NEVER QUIT AND QUITTERS NEVER WIN

Winners never quit and quitters never win,

For if you’re a quitter then you’ve stopped trying and given in.

A fighter never won a fight with delivering a powerful blow.

A runner never won a race by running very slow.

This is how it goes in everyone’s life,

Even in the middle of turmoil and strife.

“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

Is a phrase that helps people do a lot of growing.

They say “The best things in life are free.”,

And that “No one ever said the way would be easy.”

There are so many different walks in life,

Here too you have to decide what for you will be right.

If by chance the first one you choose doesn’t work,

Don’t be a quitter but a winner and for another one look.

For you can’t give up if you want to win,

Because winners never quit and quitters never win.

ONE WHO IS GOING TO BE A WINNER

Bonnie Jean

November 11, 1989

This poem won an Honorable Mention March 31, 1991 from the World Of Poetry.

 

 

When It’s Time For The Big Move

Now is the time of year when many young people are getting ready to make a very big change, a very drastic move. Yes, I’m talking about setting out on your own. This goes for graduating Seniors in high school who are going away to college, those graduating from college who have been hired for a job in another state, those who are getting married, or those who are leaving home to make their place in the world.

There are many things to take into consideration, when going to another state to live, for whatever the reason. Here is a list of all that I know of.

Any time that you move from one state to another, and possibly from one apartment to another, you more likely than not will have to be able to provide: your birth certificate, your Social Security card, and your identification card – whether it be a driver’s license or a state issued identification card for a non driver.

  1. Where you are going to live. You have to make sure that it is a place that you can afford as well as how much the deposit is and whether or not you will be responsible for the first and last month’s rent when you first sign the lease for the apartment., You will also have to know if you feel that you will be safe living there.
  2. You will have to find out whether or not your utilities are included in your rent. Where to go to sign up to have the utilities turned on, and how much the deposits will be for the utilities.
  3. Will this state take your medical card, and your prescription card? No matter how healthy you are, at some time or another you may end up having to seek medical attention and be given a prescription to take. If the state where you are going to be living in will not accept your medical insurance, you may end up in serious trouble.
  4. For those people that have rare medical conditions, you will have to make sure that there will be doctors and hospitals that can handle your particular medical condition.
  5. You will need to find out where the Division of Motor Vehicles is located. This is necessary so that you can go have your address updated on your driver’s license. You will also need to know how long you are allowed to get this done so as to avoid being given a ticket if stopped for any reason.
  6. If you don’t drive, you will need to find out about public transportation and how to use it. If by chance you happen to be disabled and need handicap accessible transportation, then you will need to find out what is required to qualify for this service. Now days most cities, at least bigger cities, will have a handicap accessible transportation service as well as having buses that are wheelchair accessible. There are some, however, that do not have such service. If accessible transportation is a must, and the place where you want to move does not have it, then you will not be able to move there, unless you obtain your own vehicle. This means that you will have to purchase a vehicle that has been adapted to your particular needs. If by chance you don’t have a driver’s license, then you will need to study, as well as practice driving, so that you can get one. If your disability is so severe that you cannot drive for yourself, then you will need to have someone else move in with you that can provide the transportation for you.

 

 

 

 

When Life Gets You Down

All of us go through times when life just gets us down. If we are lucky, these periods only last for a little while. However, there are times when these periods last for days. Nobody is immune to them. If we are honest that is. Though, I am sure that there are probably some people that would never admit to having any times when life gets them down.

Unfortunately, I have been having one of those times since my last post on April 29th. Until I actually looked at the date of the last post, I thought that it had only been three or four days. When I saw that it has been over 10 days, I was totally shocked. Now I have to figure out how I lost so many days without realizing it.

My doctors told me, a little over a year ago, that I was in the beginning stages of dementia. When I heard it, I thought, “OK, so I am beginning to forget things, no big deal.” Now that this has happened, I am beginning to wonder if it is indeed becoming a big deal. My next move is going to be marking things off on a calendar. Hopefully, then I can keep track of when I do each activity, to make sure that I do the things that I’m supposed to do.

I am giving you this information as an example to show you how you too might be able to work out a solution to a similar problem like mine. If you notice that things that should be getting done are not getting done, then you may consider using the calendar idea too. It doesn’t mean that you have dementia like I do, just that you are wanting to make sure that what needs to be done is getting done.

Knowing When To Put Down A Computer Game – A Life Lesson

This article I am calling a Life lesson. Hopefully it is a lesson that others will try to heed. I myself will also try to heed my own advice. I think that it is important to really pay attention to how we are when we play these games.

In this day and time computer games are becoming all the rage among young and old alike. Granted the games are different for the different age groups but, never the less, they are still games that are played either in the computer or on the cell phone. Sometimes they are even played on both.

In this blog, I am talking about and too myself as well as to my readers. Up until just recently, there were only a few games that I played on the computer and or on the cell phone.

The first game I ever played on the computer was solitaire. When I got a cell phone that would allow me to play solitaire, I downloaded it onto my phone as well. Later, I added Angry Birds and Cut The Rope. There were a few other games that I played for a short while, but these three were my favorite games up until just here recently. When I say recently, I mean recently. Just a week ago today, I started playing Toy Blast. At first, it was fun to play. Of course it is going to be fun in the beginning, because the different levels are easy to complete. It wasn’t until I got up to level 18 that I really started noticing a difference in my behavior. At first, I only played it occasionally, and when I first went to bed at night. When I played it after I got into bed, I only played it until the game would make me have to wait 30 minutes to regain a life to play with. Once the half hour countdown started, I would put the tablet away, turn over and go to sleep.

The last two days that has all changed. At first, I just started using my friend’s tablet to play the game during the time that my own tablet would be counting down the half hour. He was busy working, so I knew that he wouldn’t be needing his tablet. Next, I got my friend to download the game on his  personal cell phone, since he also has a business phone that he uses during the day. Then yesterday, I had him to see if he could download it onto the phone that I use for my alarm clock at night. During the day I use it to play solitaire on, so that I won’t run down the battery on my personal phone.

Believe it or not, I didn’t even stop to consider that I was using four different devices to play Toy Blast on. It wasn’t until my friends pointed it out to me that I stopped to realize how silly I had become about the game.

As it turned out, the wait period was staggered to the point that there was almost always at least one of the four devices that I could be playing the game on. This was my defense for using four different devices to play the same game on at the same time so to speak. At that time, I was stuck on trying to clear level 18 on my tablet, and I was getting tired of looking at the same game all of the time. There go the “reason” for starting to play the game on other devices.

In Toy Blast, the different levels will have four or five levels that have the same basic concept, just a slightly different shape to them. If you are one that plays this game, you probably know what I am talking about. The first few levels, it was just seeing how many matches you could do in the allowed time. You are given certain colors with numbers to try to click on. Let’s say 12 Blue squares, 15 Green squares, 12 Red squares, and 21 Clear circles with the different colors in them. You not only have to eliminate the numbers of the different colors, but also the correct number of circles. Then the next four or five levels may have blocks that look like Lego blocks in them, and these have to be eliminated as the different colors are being eliminated. Each time you click on the correct color or shape, it gets eliminated and another set pops up in its place. There are even some levels that have little stuffed toys in them that you have to eliminate by clicking on the blocks under them until they reach the bottom of the screen and then they vanish.

I have been getting increasingly disgusted with the game. I was just really annoyed yesterday by how the game was going, but have gotten more and more upset today with the game the more I play it. It’s like they are making it almost impossible to complete the levels in any good amount of  time. It seems to be taking for ever to clear each level now, and finding the matches is getting harder and harder. I know that the game is intended to become harder and harder the further along you go, but I am just getting way to upset about it.

The way I am getting, I know that I need to stop playing it so much, because I think that I am just going at it so hard and fast that I am getting burned out really quickly with it. That’s what I mean by you need to know when you are reaching your limit, and be able to step back and stop playing it for a little while. That is what I am doing myself now. I have put the game away, and don’t intend on picking it back up until some time tomorrow.

When I do pick the tablet back up, I will know after I have played the game for just a while if I have taken a long enough break from it. You may be asking how I will know if I have been away from it long enough or not? I will know by how upset I do or don’t get with the game. If I don’t get too upset, I have been away from it long enough. If I still get really upset with the game, then I need to stay away from it for a while longer.

Hopefully, after you read this blog, you too will stop and think about your behavior when you play computer games. No game is worth making yourself sick about it while playing it. Life is too short to let a game get the best of you.