Dealing With Disappointment

Right now I am dealing with disappointment, so I am going to relate to you what I am going through.

In an earlier post, on November 23, I wrote about, “It Is By Giving That We Receive”. In that post I wrote about a project that I was working on for the “Warm Up America! Foundation”.  I mentioned that I was crocheting a block or blocks for them. I have finished the blocks, but I am having trouble with the blocks not laying flat.

To find out how to remedy the problem, I Googled how to make crochet pieces lay flat. One of the replies from the search was from I went to their forum and entered my dilemma and sent a picture of one of the blocks. (see below)

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Here is a copy and paste of one of the replies that I received.


    • Villager
    • 718 posts
  • Joined 13-January 12
  • Location: Pennsylvania

Posted Yesterday, 11:13 PM

Welcome to Crochetville!


It looks like you’re putting an edge around them.  If yes, are you sure that the blocks for Warm up America! Foundation are supposed to have an edge?  We just did a whole bunch of them in my yarn group and didn’t edge them.


Also, I’m only counting 1 stitch in the corners of your edge.  Putting too few stitches along an edge or in the corners of an edge will cause curling.  For an sc edge, there should be at least 3 stitches in each corner (3 sc in the same spot.)  Along the sides look at your work every 5-6 stitches.  If you see curling, go back and add 1 or 2 stitches.  If you see it bunching together, take out 1 or 2 stitches.  I try to shoot for 3 stitches for every 2 rows when the rows are done in sc, but that’s my personal gauge.  Yours might be slightly more or less.


Blocking, which is what you were trying to do with the moist corners, depends on the type of fiber.  If it’s acrylic or cotton, I do wet blocking.  Although, acrylic doesn’t tend to hold blocking very well.  Here’s how…


1. Get the project very wet by either washing it in the washing machine or letting it soak in hot, slightly soapy water for at least 20 minutes.  This loosens up the fibers.

2. Remove any excess water gently and without wringing.  Finish by rolling it in a towel and squeezing the towel.  If you machine washed it, the excess was removed in the spinning process.

3. Sandwich it between 2 towels.  Iron the top towel to get steam into the project.

4. Either pin it into shape or put a heavy object on it.

5. Allow it to completely dry, which takes 3-4 days.


This was my reply.


    • Villager
    • 2 posts
  • Joined Yesterday, 08:04 PM

Posted Today, 12:46 AM

I am surprised that I am putting an edge on it because I don’t even know how to put an edge on crocheted pieces. I only know how to do single crochet, and obviously I don’t know how to do it very well. I guess that if they have an edge on them then I better not send them to the Warm Up America! Foundation. I don’t want to do them wrong and then they can’t even be used.


I have no idea how to put multiple stitches in each corner, and then be able to continue with the row. I mainly crochet to keep my fingers working. I have diabetic neuropathy and the crocheting helps me keep busy with my hands. I enjoy doing the single crochet and have never been taught how to do anything else. I live in Lexington, KY. Is there some place where I can go to learn how to make other things besides scarves, coasters, and blocks with crocheting. I would like to learn how to do Granny Squares to make blankets.


I would definitely appreciate any tutorials that you can provide for me. When a person stops learning then they become too sedentary.


Thank you for the instructions on how to make the squares flatten out. I will definitely do that and hope it works. But with my lack of luck, I’m not going to hold my breath. LOL.



Now to discuss the disappointment part. I have been happy and felt good about doing the blocks for the Warm Up America! Foundation, and couldn’t wait to get some blocks finished. I was upset with myself that all of the blocks that I made had curled up on the corners, and therefore sought help for the situation. I was not prepared to receive the reply that I got. When the person said that it looked like I had put an edge on it, I was shocked. Knowing that I don’t even know how to put an edge on anything that I crochet, I was surprised to say the least. But then after I read ” We just did a whole bunch of them in my yarn group and didn’t edge them.” I was crushed.

My first thoughts were, Oh no. I have done the blocks wrong and now I can’t send the blocks that I made  to them. My next thought was that I didn’t have enough yarn to make any more blocks with. That was when all I wanted to do was to cry. I knew that I had failed in my attempt to give to others and therefore to do good for others. Yes, I was indeed, crushed to the max.

Lucky for me, I was at some friends house. One of them told me that I shouldn’t be so upset about it. I was reminded that I had had good intentions when I was making the blocks. My friend went on to say that it may have been a blessing in disguise because the blocks were Christmas colored – red, green, and white – and may not have been able to be used to begin with. Now I could give them to friends as hot pads to put hot foods on, on the table.

They also told me that I can buy more yarn after Christmas and make more squares and send the new squares to the foundation. They then added that first I need to find out what I did that could be considered an edge on the blocks. Until I find out about that, I won’t be able to make blocks to send them anyway.

Needless to say, I have calmed down considerably now. I am hoping that someone on the Forum at can let me know just what I did that can be considered an edge, and how not to do it in the future. I need to know this because besides making the blocks, I also want to make scarves for the

The Red Scarf Project

It won’t be very good if I make scarves for school students and children in foster care situations, and I make them wrong.

I hope in this post you can see that there are a lot of different emotions and thoughts that a person goes through whenever they get disappointed about something. This is a normal process, and it happens to all types of people. Nobody is immune to being disappointed at some time or another. We just have to do our best to get through it and come out victorious on the other side. I may have failed for now, but I am not defeated. I will find out how to make the blocks properly, buy some more yarn, and then make the blocks and send them on to the Warm Up America Foundation.