“Everyone comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack.” This makes a lot of sense actually. There is no person alive that does not have some type or another of “baggage”. There is no person alive that does not want to be accepted for who and what they are, be they bad or good. The only way that this is possible is by the other person having unconditional love and acceptance.
The definition of unconditional love (from Google research) is –
Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations. It can be also love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, complete love, or “mother’s/father’s love.”
When a boy and a girl meet, they form an instant opinion of each other as to whether or not to accept each other as friends. A relationship that will and/or can last a lifetime starts with initial acceptance. Once the two have decided to accept each other, they start getting to know each other better. A part of getting to know each other better is getting to know each other’s characteristics, strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes. All too often the two do not get to know each other well enough before they decide that they “LOVE” each other. When they say “LOVE”, they usually have it in the back of their minds that they want to marry each other, or live together.
A friend and I have written a poem about “A Friend’s True Colors”. The poem is basically about how a friend might react to an emergency situation, and how one might hope the friend would react. The things that are brought out are things to think about when choosing friends, and especially if the friendship could end up a serious and permanent relationship. You can read it at the end of this post.
If you have met someone that you would like to become serious about, then try to find out just how that person feels about the different kinds of things that are your traits, and how you feel about theirs. If either one of you does something that the other just can’t stand, then just maybe you are not meant for each other.
Both of you have to be willing to put up with each other’s “baggage”, no matter whether the “baggage” is good or bad. If you truly love each other enough, then you are willing to put up with whatever “baggage” each other has without planning on “changing” the other person. If you have it in the back of your mind that “after you get married you are going to train them how you want them”, then you are not willing for them to unpack their baggage, and especially not willing to help them unpack it. When this is the case, you are doomed to fail in the relationship.
A Friend’s True Colors
A friend’s true colors you will see,
When someone goes down in front of thee!
Do you stop to give him aid?
Or is a bee line for the door what is made?
Are you just a good weather friend?
Or do you stay through thick or thin?
Are you only there when things are going right?
Do you comfort him through the turmoils and strife?
Are you there for him, no matter what?
Or is a superficial friend all he’s got?
A true friend is one you can count on day or night,
Whether things are bad or going all right.
A true friend will be there come sunshine or rain.
He will cry with you in your losses and rejoice in your gains.
The way it’s said matters not.
As long as a true friend is what you’ve got.
What type of friend are you?
Think about it.
Written by Bonnie Jean Hern & Vladimir Stafford
March 8, 2015
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