I Cannot Believe This Has Happened In America

Sometimes I come across a post that is too important for me to change any of it. This is such a post. Please read it and make your own decision. I am saddened by what has happened in our great country of America, where everybody is promised a chance at an education if they so choose, or their parents choose for them if they are too young to make the choice. I copied the whole thing word for word.
Kelley Rhodes

February 7 at 9:29pm · Chesapeake, VA ·

Someone posted this in a group, and I think it’s too important not to share. Of course, it’s anecdotal, and it’s just one opinion, but it’s just one great example of why many are upset and bewildered about today’s education news.

The Senate Republicans and Vice President Pence have spoken today and I heard their message loud and clear; my child’s education is not important and my heart is broken.

Meet my daughter Alice, who at 3 years old was accepted into a state funded special needs preschool on Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri. Her acceptance into this school has meant so many things to us; she learned how to be a peer, she learned how to cope with the stresses of school, and most importantly, she learned how to learn. In Betsy DeVos’ America, these programs are wasteful spending of our taxpayer dollars.

In Betsy DeVos’ America, the IDEA Laws that now governor her IEP in the 1st Grade are useless because she does not believe children with special needs deserve or have a right to public education.

My heart is broken for every child who is going to have to go without under Betsy DeVos.

My heart is broken for every child who is going to lose their aid and support team under Betsy DeVos.

My heart is broken for every child who’s education isn’t a priority to Betsy DeVos.

My heart is broken for my daughter, because the Senate Republicans and VP Pence spoke today, and they have declared unequivocally that her right to an education is not as important as her sister’s.

Education is not a partisan issue—it is an issue that effects every child of every color and every ethnicity and every political side. But Senate Republicans and VP Pence have decided that our kids don’t matter, MY Alice doesn’t matter.

The fight has just begun, and I know that it is so hard, but please, please don’t forget these children. Don’t forget about Alice and those like her who can’t fight for themselves; they need us, ALL of us to get through these next 4 years.

This picture was taken when Alice was 3 years old as she waited to go to class. Autism has many faces and hers is one of them.


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Kerri Beth
Kerri Beth I just keep praying….
Diane Spattifor Allen
Diane Spattifor Allen I certainly hope that children with disabilities continue to receive and have access to public education. We can’t return to the past!!
Ashleigh Kastner
Ashleigh Kastner I hate to sound super ignorant and uninformed, but all I can find are biased media reports that differ greatly from each side. Is there a link of actual facts that anyone knows of that I can read her plans on education?
Ashleigh Kastner replied · 2 Replies
Elisa Willoughby
Elisa Willoughby We had a meeting with Logan’s teacher today. He’s excelling in every area except reading, where he is at a level 4 when he’s “supposed” to be at a level 12 right now. He makes strides and seems to master something, then back slides for no apparent reasSee More
Jennie Hott
Jennie Hott Is this an actual fact? I find it hard to believe because this would be discrimination. Is there a link to back up this?
Brandi Jackson Stiff
Brandi Jackson Stiff Having Jack, I researched her. Unfortunately she really bungled her interview with Senator Kaine. That said, I don’t think SPED kids are the ones that should be worried. We selected our house based on schools for Jack. I know there are lots of familiesSee More
Kelley Rhodes
Bonnie Jean Hern
Bonnie Jean Hern Oh my dear God please be with all of the special needs children that are going to be left out because of this uneducated woman that is now in the office of controlling our children’s education and she is not even qualified to do so. She herself does not have the education necessary to make these decisions. Please dear gracious God do not let our children suffer beyond which they cannot recover after this woman can no longer make decisions on what type of education they should have. I guess she wants our children to be as ill prepared for life as she is for the job that she has been entrusted. Only time will tell how much damage this woman is going to do to our children, who will be our leaders of tomorrow, because of her own lack of education.

How Technology Changed My Life

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about the advances in technology, that I am aware of, in my lifetime, and how they have helped me. Having been born in the early 1950s, I have experienced many of the changes first hand.

There was no such thing as a cell phone when I was growing up. All phones were wired into the wall. You had to dial the number using a round dial with holes in it and the numbers were on the solid base of the phone. You would put your finger into whichever hole had the number you needed under it, and then turn the dial clockwise until you hit the little stop piece.


Touch tone phones did not come until after I was a teenager.


Cell phones didn’t come until after I was an adult. My first cell phone was big and heavy, like the one in the far right of the picture below. My second cell phone was a flip phone, like the one in the picture by itself on the right. These first phones had three letters and/or characters on each number. It was sort of hard for me, at first, to get the hang of having to press the individual number from 1 to 3 times to get whatever letter I needed for the text I was sending, or the contact that I was entering into the phone. Most cell phones today have touch screens with keyboards on them, so you can type whatever message you need to send. And for those that can’t or don’t want to use their hands, they can use speech to text. The three that I know names for them are, Alexa, Cortana  and Siri . A person merely has say “Hey Alexa”,  “Hey Cortana”, or “Hey Siri” to activate the voice system. Phones with Google are activated by saying “OK Google” and then telling Google whatever it is that you want Google to do. Siri and Cortana can also be told to do other things, such as call someone that you have listed in your contacts, set a timer, and set alarms if necessary. I have come to appreciate the touch screens quite a bit.

Besides the phone’s capabilities of making calls, sending messages, and setting timers and alarms, for whatever reason, cell phones of today can record videos, take pictures, and provide GPS capabilities. You can locate your family members with Life 360, your lost phone(if the app is turned on), and find what route to take you anyplace that you need to go. It is also possible to watch movies and TV shows, as well as play games on them. I don’t know how people made it as well as they did before the advent of cell phones.

cell-phone-evolution    flip-phone 

Taking pictures has even become much easier. Now days there are digital cameras, for those old timers that don’t want or trust cell phones(there are still a few of those people around), and for people that take a lot of pictures and don’t want to run the battery down on their cell phone. Cameras of the past had to use flash bulbs, and film that had to be physically rolled onto a reel in the camera and advanced with each picture that was taken. My first camera was a Brownie Fiesta, that was like the first one in the picture below.



For people in manual wheel chairs, the invention of power wheel chairs is about the best invention in their lives. The accessibility, to most people with insurance makes it possible for people that could not afford them on their own to be able to own a power chair. It is almost unbelievable to people with any type of paralysis. They are able to get around with a power chair, when they could not do so with a manual chair, unless someone was willing to push them. Even quadriplegics are able to get around, with the aid of a blow tube to control the chair.

Not only are there power chairs, but even manual chairs now have a device that can be put on the two big wheels that can assist them in being able to propel their chair. They are called “power assist motors”. I hope to be able to get them for my manual chair. I had a power chair, but it gave up the ghost about four years ago, and I had to go to my back-up manual chair. But without the manual chair I would not be able to leave my house, so I am happy to have it.



These are all really great inventions, but computers have to be the biggest change in all of the wonderful changes that I have seen and had a chance to use and own. To think that back in 1970, when I was in college for computer programming, I had to actually punch cards, stack them, and then verify them before I could run them to see if my program would work. First picture is of a man punching the cards. Second picture shows cards in the keypunch machine. Third picture shows stacking cards to put them in the machine that would verify them, the verifying machine is in the fourth picture.

punching-cards  punch-card-in-machine  stacking-cards-to-verify  punch-card-verifier

There was no such thing as a motherboard. There were physical boards, that had to be wired by hand, one wire at a time. These boards are what told the computer what to do. They were the fore runners to plug in modules, since there were no such thing as modules


Only businesses and very rich people had computers. The computer and all of its’ components could take up any where from one room to whole buildings. There were raised floors, so that cooling equipment could be installed under them. The temperature had to be kept between 68 and 72 degrees Fahrenheit in the rooms where the massive computers were set up.

Businesses had to be connected to their main computers by modems with internal dial-up routers.


The businesses had actual floppy discs that were 8 inches square, or 5 and 1/4 inches square. The users had to be careful not to bend them, or the information that they contained would be corrupted. Then came the 3 and 1/2 inch square floppy discs that were actually hard plastic.All three sizes and types were called floppy discs though, because they had a very thin floppy disc inside, that contained whatever information that you entered into the computer.


These floppy discs were the first type of storage, and later were replaced by hard drives. The hard drives were metal and had metal discs called platters inside of them. These platters spun around and as the data was entered into the computer, it was recorded on these platters. The first hard drives could only hold mega bytes and/or kilo bytes of data. It took a few years before the first Gigabyte storage capable hard drives were developed. My first Gigabyte hard drive was capable of storing 12 Gigabytes of data. When I had that installed into my computer, I thought it would last me for, the rest of my life. I have since had hard drives capable of holding up to over 500 Gigabytes of data.

After the hard drives came external hard drives that could be carried and hooked up to computers in other places via a USB cable.


These too were not capable of high volumes of data at first. Now internal hard drives and external hard drives are capable of holding Terabytes of data, and are also available in Solid State Drive form. A Solid State Drive is one that has no internal parts that move. Below are three hard drives. The one on the left is an internal hard drive, the one in the middle in a laptop hard drive, and the one on the left is a solid state hard drive. The solid state hard drive is the same size as the laptop hard drive is. Since the solid state hard drive has no moving parts, it will last indefinitely.

hard-disk  laptop-hard-drive solid-state-drive 

Below is a comparison of a regular hard drive and a solid state drive.


The actual computer was in a very large metal case with the workings inside of it. These were called desk top computers, and came in various sizes. With the desktop computer it was necessary to use a separate keyboard and mouse. Some of the computers were able to be put flat and the monitor was placed on top of it, but most of them stood beside the monitor. See pictures below.

desktop-with-monitor-keyboard-and-mouse   desktop-that-lays-flat

The computers continued to be improved and made smaller and easier to be carried around. These came to be known as Laptop computers, and even smaller ones are called tablets. The tablets are more for watching movies ans playing games though, than for actually being used as computers. They usually didn’t have keyboards with them and therefore were not practical for business use. Now, however there are tablets that have magnetic keyboards that may be connected to them, so they may be used as regular laptops.A regular laptop is shown on the left, and a tablet with a magnetic keyboard is shown on the right.

laptop-computer   tablet-with-keyboard 

The first computer that I had was one that friends gave to me. It was a stand-up desktop with a CRT screen, keyboard and regular mouse. I later had a computer built to my specifications that also had a CRT, but it was a 17 inch screen. I had a keyboard and a regular mouse.

Today my mouse is an optical mouse. Even though I have a laptop that has a mouse pad and a keyboard contained in it, I like using an external mouse and an external keyboard. I am a senior citizen, and it is just easier for me to use the external devices.

The portability of a laptop is great. When I take the laptop anyplace, all I take is the external mouse, and use the keyboard that is made into the laptop.

When I think of all the technological changes that have happened in my lifetime, I am all but overwhelmed. It is simply amazing to see how far technology has come. Children of today, and even many adults will never know what having vinyl records playing on a record player was like. Nor will they know what a hardwired house phone ( more commonly called a land line) was like. They will never have known black and white TV, VHS movies, cassette tapes and eight tracks, cameras with flash bulbs and film that had to be wound after each picture. With being able to make videos on cell phones, they won’t know what home movies, large screens to show the movies on, and home movie projectors are all about. By the same token they will not know what having picture negatives, to keep up with to be able to get copies for other people, is all about. They can simply take and store pictures on their cell phones and upload them to the cloud. With mp3 players they don’t have to have  to use walk men to be able to carry their favorite songs with them.  DVDs have evolved to Blue Ray and now even 4k, I think they are called. The x-box is going away to a degree, since most games can now be purchased and played on PCs and/or laptops. Some are even available to be used on tablets, if the tablet is powerful enough.

Even though some of the advances are hard to get used to at first, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Technology is wonderful, and change will never stop happening. When you stop wanting to learn new things, you stop living, to a degree. I am very thankful for the changes that I have come to depend on each and every day. There is no way that I can single out which one is better than another, and how they have helped me. But if I had to pick just one, I would have to pick the phone first. And if by chance I could pick two things, I would have to pick the laptop next.

But even more amazing than the computers are the advances that are being made in the medical field. It is possible these days to have many surgeries with incisions that are only one or two inches long, instead of having to be cut open with incisions that are six inches or larger. Granted there are still surgeries that require large incisions to be made, but most surgeries are much simpler than what they used to be. Even the tools that are being used today are much more advanced than they were years ago.

There is the Gamma Knife, that uses gamma radiation to perform very delicate brain surgery.


The Socrates robot(I think that’s what his name is) can perform many different types of surgeries. It has many different arms, that can be manipulated in many ways. There is no way that human arms can possibly make all of the different moves that the robot’s arms can make. This is just to mention a couple of technological advances in the surgery field.


Even imaging has come a tremendous way. When I was growing up, the only imaging device possible to see anything inside of a person was the x-ray machine. When the ultrasound machine came out, people could not believe that such a great machine had been invented. The first ones were done on pregnant women, after about four month gestation, to check on the baby and its development. This was back in the 1950s. It was in the early 1970s when I had my first ultrasound. The next imaging device that I was aware of was the CT scan. My first one was in the mid to late 1970s. Next for me was the MRI, and I had my first one of those in the mid 1990s. I know that there are PET scanners, but as of yet I have not had to have one of those. Unfortunately, I have had too many of all of the others to keep count. I have had to have video imaging done on my bladder and kidneys, but I don’t know which one of the technologies was used for that process.

These imaging devices eliminate a lot of, what used to be called “exploratory surgery”. The surgeries that were done when the doctors knew that something was bad wrong, but did not know what, and had to find out to save a person’s life.

I am a true living miracle of technology. For I have an artificial bladder. My first bladder surgery was done in 1997. It was to have a supra pubic catheter placed directly into my bladder. I have a neurogenic bladder, and therefore was unable to tell when it was necessary to go to the bathroom, and when I would just go, because I knew I was bound to have to go, I was unable to do so. The first time it happened was on my birthday, March 22, 1997. I happened to already be in the hospital foe a different reason. It was 10:30 PM and I had not gone to the restroom since 7:30 AM. I knew that I was bound to have to go. I tried to go, but was unable to do so. I told the nurses, and they immediately had to catheterize me. To their amazement, 1,000cc came out. They told me that they were going to have to kink off the catheter or my bladder would go into all kinds of spasms. About half an hour later, they came back and released the kink in the catheter, and another 1,000cc came out. Once again they had to kink off the catheter. Half an hour later, they repeated the process. This time, only 800cc came out. The nurses told me that I was lucky to be alive. They went on to say that the normal bladder feels the urge to release at 600cc and can hold 800cc. They said that I was lucky that my bladder had not ruptured and killed me from peritonitis. Once a bladder ruptures, the person is usually dead within 24 hours. A Foley catheter was inserted and had to remain until my first surgery on April 18, 1997.

I was a very active person, and was attending the community college for a computer degree. After three years, the catheter started rubbing the inside of my bladder and making it bleed. The doctors knew something had to be done. I had finished school and was working full time. As you can see from the picture of me at work, I have many medical problems, but I try not to let them get me down. I’m not going to go into any detail here.


On November 2, 2000, I received my artificial bladder. The bladder was made from my intestines. They took the part where the large and small intestines meet. That is the only place in the intestines where there was a sphincter that would open and close like the bladder needed to be able to do. In December of 2000 I had to have a knee replacement. While I was recuperating from the surgery, the opening to my bladder closed up. I had to have a catheter inserted into my urethra until the next surgery could be done. The doctors had to release me from the knee surgery before I could have the bladder surgery. In March of 2001, I had the bladder surgery.

I returned to work April 18, 2001. From what I have been told, of all of the people that received an artificial bladder in 2000, only a handful were still .living in 2003. Now I am the only surviving person that received an artificial bladder in 2000. November 2, 2016 will be 16 years. Were it not for technological advances, I would not be alive today. I am so thankful for technology and all of the advances that I have been able to enjoy, and will continue to enjoy for years to come.

Finally Back In Operation

It has been since the end of May that I posted my last blog here. I have had too many things happen to discuss at this time. There have been medical issues on my part, being out of state helping to take cake of my Mother, while my sister and brother-in law went on a trip, and major problems with my laptop that resulted in having to let it be discarded.

My friend tried many times, unsuccessfully, to fix my laptop. It would work for a few days, and then start acting up again. I had to admit that it was unable to be fixed, because if my friend can’t fix it, it can’t be fixed. He is a genius when it comes to fixing computers.

That same friend is loaning me a laptop until I can save up the money to have a custom desktop built. Once the desktop is built, it will be easier to fix if anything happens to it. Each component is separate and can be replaced very easily. Laptops are hard to work on because everything is connected to the motherboard. When there is a short anywhere, it’s very hard to find, and obviously even harder to fix.

Enough said. I am back, and this is hopefully the last new beginning I will have to do.

Handling Bullying and Criticism

There is a saying, that probably everybody has heard at one time or another, and it is, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never harm me.” This is true in the sense that words cannot break your bones, but the part that they cannot harm you is false. Words can harm a person in ways that cannot be seen. They cause mental and emotional scars that can only be felt on the inside by the person that they were said to.

Nine times out of ten the hurtful words are said by someone that has been hurt badly. This person wants someone else to hurt just as bad as they do. Many, if not most bullies start out this way. There are many reasons why the bully may be hurting, and there will always be reasons that can never be known by another person, because the bully doesn’t trust anyone enough to tell them what is bothering them. It is possible that they may not even know or fully realize the reason them self. It could be that all they know is that they are hurting and they want to hurt someone else. This in no way gives this person the right to bully someone else, but bullies don’t care about rights.

Bullying is the ultimate form or criticism, and can be worse than criticism if and when it turns physical. Not only is the person that is doing the bullying a very unhappy person, but they do not have a very good self image, self esteem, self worth, whatever you want to call it. They are also very unstable, and that being the case, they could become violent at any time. Granted the person may boast of doing great things and having many material possessions, but chances are that it is all false, and this person is bullying you to make him or her self feel big, and by feeling big they feel better.

For some reason, whenever one person can make another person feel bad about them self, then that person feels good about them self. By the same token, when the bully actually becomes physical, they feel strong and that makes them feel superior. I know that it is hard not to pay attention to the bully, but try your best not to let the bully know that they are making you feel bad and/or that you are scared of them. If they have hurt you physically, or threatened your life, CALL THE POLICE!!!!!

I have seen too many videos done by family members of people that were bullied and couldn’t take it and they committed suicide. It is not worth losing your life over a bully. You may think that whatever the bully does must be OK because they have so many people following them and doing whatever the bully wants them to do. The true fact is probably that the followers are the victims of the bully also. Apparently they can’t find a way to make the bully stop bullying them so as a result they follow the bully and do anything that the bully tells them to do. After all, if they are doing just what the bully tells them to do, how can the bully be upset with them and keep bullying them? The bully has won his control over them.

Please try to be strong and not let the bully take control of your life. Being the so call it slave to the bully is not a very good life to live. If people could find a way to stand up to the bully, then maybe the bully would have to stop all of his bullying, because possibly so many people would find that they could stand up to the bully and not be controlled by him. When too many people are not afraid of him and making him feel big and important, he no longer has a reason to be a bully. Enough about bullies.

Now to criticism. There are two types of criticism, just out and out criticism, usually given out by people that are just plain judgemental and critical of others, and what is called constructive criticism.

All the first type of person knows how to do is to criticize others and be judgemental of them. For the most part, they are just blowing off steam. I listen to what they are saying and then just go about my business. I try to chalk their criticism up to them just having a bad day, or that all they know how to do is to be critical of other people. Then I go about my way and continue like I was before.

The second type of criticism comes from people that truly want to help other people out. They usually mainly try to point out thing to others that they perceive will help the other person in some way or another. I have found that for the most part, it is usually family members or friends that will give the constructive criticism. Some times bosses or supervisors will give employees constructive criticism to help them with their job duties.

Some examples of constructive criticism may be:

  1. Telling the other person a shorter or easier way to do a specific job, such as folding towels or sheets. The one making the comment may have noticed the other person having a hard time trying to figure out how to fold the sheets to make them fit in the space that they have to fit in. They may feel that by telling the other person a few different ways to fold them, one will be the correct way to make the sheets fit in the necessary space where they need to go.
  2. An older adult showing a younger adult the proper way to wash clothes. The younger person could be taking up housekeeping for the first time and not know some of the secrets to washing clothes that assure a clean wash. For example spraying stain remover on any clothes that have stains on them, because once the clothes go through the dryer, the stains will be set in on the clothes. Letting the younger person know that making sure that socks, underclothes, and other clothes will get cleaner if they are turned right side out. This is especially true for socks. If socks are left inside out, after they are washed and turned right side out, dirt may actually fall on the floor from where they did not come clean because of being wrong side out.
  3. The older person may point out that folding clothes while they are still warm will prevent the clothes from looking like they have been slept in. If clothes are allowed to remain in the laundry basket after they have been dried, then they will become very wrinkled, therefore the look of having been slept in.                                                                                                                            Hopefully these examples will show you what I mean by constructive criticism by family or friends.                                                                                                                                 When a boss gives constructive criticism, it is usually to help the employee be able to perform a job more efficiently, not to be mean to the employee. The boss may simply show the employee how to eliminate one or more steps out of a process from the way that the employee is currently doing the task. By eliminating that one or more steps, it is possible that quite a bit of time will be saved, and also be lowering the risk of a error taking place during the extra step or steps that the employee was doing.                                                                                                                               Hopefully this article will be helpful to quite a few people. Handling criticism is hard for many many people, so don’t be ashamed if it is hard for you. Just next time, try to remember some of the things that I have pointed out here,

You Need To Set High Goals For Yourself

There is a poem that I heard years ago. For whatever reason, the poem has intrigued me every time that I have thought about it. The poem has helped me through things that not many people have thought that I could do.

The title of this blog is an excerpt from the introduction to the poem. The full introduction is, “Be positive, set high goals for yourself and expect the same of others.”

The title of the poem is, “It Couldn’t Be Done”, the Author is Edgar A. Guest. I have copied the poem below.

       It Couldn’t Be Done

Somebody said that it couldn’t be done
      But he with a chuckle replied
That “maybe it couldn’t,” but he would be one
      Who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
      On his face. If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
      That couldn’t be done, and he did it!
Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that;
      At least no one ever has done it;”
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat
      And the first thing we knew he’d begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
      Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
      That couldn’t be done, and he did it.
There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
      There are thousands to prophesy failure,
There are thousands to point out to you one by one,
      The dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle in with a bit of a grin,
      Just take off your coat and go to it;
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
      That “cannot be done,” and you’ll do it.

There is one other thing that has helped to give me a push. I first heard this song and watched the cartoon when I was four or five years old. It’s the song about the little engine that could. I looked up the lyrics and copied them here. The song was written by Watty Piper in 1930 and was sung by Burl Ives in the cartoon that I saw.

The Little Engine That Could

There was a little railroad train with loads and loads of toys
All starting out to find a home with little girls and boys
And as that little railroad train began to chug along
The little engine up in front was heard to sing this song

Choo choo, choo choo, choo choo, choo choo, I feel so good today
Oh, clear the track, oh clickety clack, Ill go my merry way

The little train went roaring on, so fast, it seemed to fly
Until it reached a mountain rising almost to the sky
The little engine moaned and groaned and huffed and puffed away
But halfway to the top it just gave up and seemed to say

I cant go on, I cant go on, Im weary as can be
I cant go on, I cant go on, this job is not for me

The toys got out to push but all in vain alas, alack
And then a great big engine came a whistling down the track
They asked if it would kindly pull them up the mountain side
But with a high and mighty sneer it scornfully replied

Dont bother me, dont bother me to pull the likes of you
Dont bother me, dont bother me, Ive better things to do

The toys all started crying cause that engine was so mean
And then there came another one, the smallest ever seen
But though it seemed that she could hardly pull herself along
She hitched on to the train and as she pulled she sang this song

I think I can, I think I can, I think I have a plan
And I can do ‘most anything if I only think I can

Then up that great big mountain with the cars all full of toys
And soon they reached the waiting arms of happy girls and boy
And though that ends the story it will do you lots of good
To take a lesson from the little engine that could

Just think you can, just think you can, just have that understood
And very soon youll start to say, I always knew I could

I knew I could, I knew I could, I knew I could
I knew I could, I knew I could, I knew I could, I knew I could


Read more: Burl Ives – The Little Engine That Could Lyrics | MetroLyrics

The moral of both instances is to never give up, and always have confidence in yourself. Even if you fail, you learn from the failure what not to do the next time. You need to try, whatever it was that you failed to do, yet another time. And if by chance you fail again, do it over another time. Never, never, never give up.


This also backs up, to a degree, a poem that I wrote many years ago titled “Winners Never Quit And Quitters Never Win”. I have referred to the poem before, and copied it for my readers, but it is one of those things that can be copied every now and then just to refresh my readers memories. I am copying it here again.


Winners never quit and quitters never win,

For if you’re a quitter then you’ve stopped trying and given in.

A fighter never won a fight with delivering a powerful blow.

A runner never won a race by running very slow.

This is how it goes in everyone’s life,

Even in the middle of turmoil and strife.

“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

Is a phrase that helps people do a lot of growing.

They say “The best things in life are free.”,

And that “No one ever said the way would be easy.”

There are so many different walks in life,

Here too you have to decide what for you will be right.

If by chance the first one you choose doesn’t work,

Don’t be a quitter but a winner and for another one look.

For you can’t give up if you want to win,

Because winners never quit and quitters never win.


Bonnie Jean

November 11, 1989

This poem won an Honorable Mention March 31, 1991 from the World Of Poetry.



When It’s Time For The Big Move

Now is the time of year when many young people are getting ready to make a very big change, a very drastic move. Yes, I’m talking about setting out on your own. This goes for graduating Seniors in high school who are going away to college, those graduating from college who have been hired for a job in another state, those who are getting married, or those who are leaving home to make their place in the world.

There are many things to take into consideration, when going to another state to live, for whatever the reason. Here is a list of all that I know of.

Any time that you move from one state to another, and possibly from one apartment to another, you more likely than not will have to be able to provide: your birth certificate, your Social Security card, and your identification card – whether it be a driver’s license or a state issued identification card for a non driver.

  1. Where you are going to live. You have to make sure that it is a place that you can afford as well as how much the deposit is and whether or not you will be responsible for the first and last month’s rent when you first sign the lease for the apartment., You will also have to know if you feel that you will be safe living there.
  2. You will have to find out whether or not your utilities are included in your rent. Where to go to sign up to have the utilities turned on, and how much the deposits will be for the utilities.
  3. Will this state take your medical card, and your prescription card? No matter how healthy you are, at some time or another you may end up having to seek medical attention and be given a prescription to take. If the state where you are going to be living in will not accept your medical insurance, you may end up in serious trouble.
  4. For those people that have rare medical conditions, you will have to make sure that there will be doctors and hospitals that can handle your particular medical condition.
  5. You will need to find out where the Division of Motor Vehicles is located. This is necessary so that you can go have your address updated on your driver’s license. You will also need to know how long you are allowed to get this done so as to avoid being given a ticket if stopped for any reason.
  6. If you don’t drive, you will need to find out about public transportation and how to use it. If by chance you happen to be disabled and need handicap accessible transportation, then you will need to find out what is required to qualify for this service. Now days most cities, at least bigger cities, will have a handicap accessible transportation service as well as having buses that are wheelchair accessible. There are some, however, that do not have such service. If accessible transportation is a must, and the place where you want to move does not have it, then you will not be able to move there, unless you obtain your own vehicle. This means that you will have to purchase a vehicle that has been adapted to your particular needs. If by chance you don’t have a driver’s license, then you will need to study, as well as practice driving, so that you can get one. If your disability is so severe that you cannot drive for yourself, then you will need to have someone else move in with you that can provide the transportation for you.